Hi,
I went on line and I was looking for an address so I pulled down the address thing and I saw that my boyfriend of 2 years has been looking at porn on line, I don't like that he did that and I want to confront him on it but I don't want to start a fight with him, What should I do. We don't have sex a lot anymore and I am wondering if its me or what. Please help me what do I do. :(

Personally I hate pornography,yet as an artist I love the beauty of the female body which is why I hate porno since they make it look as ugly as they can in those cheap photos and positions.Let him burn out on it and mention it casually but not in a judgemental way.Best thing is to let it pass.

Thank you for your help but what do you mean bring it up casualy and how should I do that... I don't think its discusting but I don't think he should have to look at it if he has someone who loves him and would do anything for him.

I am married and very old fashioned. I personally believe that if you are with someone and you love them they should be the only ones you look at. I know for a fact my husband would be very hurt if I looked at a naked man cause we had this discussion before. I think that you should talk to him about it and let him know honestly how you feel. If he truly cares about your feelings he will do something about it. If you can try to add a little more spice to your love life. Something that will give him a reason to always want you and not porn. If you keep it inside it's going to eventually come out in a bad way. If you talk to him and he's not willing to change than maybe you should rethink the relationship. Not all guys have to look at pron and you will eventually find one who doesn't and only wants you.

I have seen the same thing with my boyfreind(of 4yrs)i confronted him right away.it did cause an argument but only because I didn't like his answer.he says that he looks just to do it,it doesn't make him horny or want a girl like that, just its there so why not.its kind of weird but look at the web site with him and watch his reaction,I could bet its not what you think. ;)

I talked to him about it but he just blow it off like it wasn't anythig he said that He was doing it before he met me and he is going to keep doing it. But he only does it when I'm not home... what should I do

Only you know the answer to that one.

You have to decide to either ignore it or to leave.

Just keeping on being bothered by it is not the way to go.


And only you know what is morre important to you - to be with him or not to be confronted with the porn.

I don't know his age but young males do need an outlet and frankly, I'd rather it be porn than other women.

Hey...

First and foremost guys are visual OK they love porn I don't know one guy that doesn't and I don't think its that criminal... You know what maybe you should get a nice porn film and say hey want to watcha vid and give hima surprise trust me you might enjoy it and he will love it put some spice back into it

I did and we have been better off

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Myself I only hate it when my boyfriend gets on a porn site and the trash starts coming to my pc. It sometimes contains spy cookies that are hard to get rid of.
Otherwise I would really hate for him to tell me what I can and cannot view in my own leisure time. I am an Adult. If I were a child then censorship would be normal.
Guess what I am trying to say is turn the tables... would you like it if he told you what you could look at on the internet? ;D

Maybe he's looking for new techniques to improve your relationship, confront him but do in a manner of interest as apossed to being mad,evan tough you are... maybe he's trying to tell you something... good luck and god bless


Chaz :)

If this is becoming a big problem between you and your boyfriend then you should cut off the internet if he keeps on blowing you off. Good luck

My own experience of this is that my husband used to choose porn over having sex with me. That really hurt. If your boyfriend is just using it as a suplement then you might have to deal with it. If you're also not having sex that much anymore and when he's choosing whether to sleep with you or to watch porn he's choosing the porn then I'd deal with it now... eighteen months down the track my marriage is over partly because of his porn problem. It's completed ****ed me up for a bit, I was convinced I was either unattractive or crap in bed. I've had sufficient evidence since I left and started seeing other men that neither of those are true, but you have to nip it in the bud NOW if it's that big a problem.

Hey numbnuts - this thread is from 2 years ago. This person is lone gone.

Now you know the reason. So stop being dumb. He's been lying to you, so just get rid of him. Why confront him, so he can lie some more? Why can't you be happy to spy and observe his behavior for awhile, until you can get up the nerve to leave? Of course, the porn is the reason for a low sex drive, it causes fantasy, and he enjoys living in that world.

She left him and ran home to mama! I know I was there. Please stop posting.