At work this guy has been flirting with me over a year now. He finally grew on me a couple weeks ago, so I began to be attracted to him. That night I wondered, "Ok when is he going to make a move?" Guess what? He did that next day! He asked for my number in a cute way, so I gave it to him. He then texted me that same night and said it was him and how he was STILL at work. We went back and forth and he said he was just now eating dinner and wished that I were there with him. Then he added he would take to dinner somewhere way better than what he was eating. We continued texting and ended it because I was busy packing for my New Years trip.

He told me to call him on my way there if I got bored. I didn't, I called when I made it there (New Years Eve). I made the conversation brief. It was small talk and nothing serious. That night after midnight about 12:15am he texts, "I wish you were here, Happy New Year." I said, "You're so sweet. Happy New Year. Xoxo." He then repeats himself and says, "I wish you were here, xoxo." I then say, "Who knows, maybe next year. He says, "That's not soon enough, what about next week?" I say, "Are you asking me out?" He says, "Yes, Im askng you out." It was late by that time and it took him like 45 min to send that last text, so I was sleep by then and didn't respond.

That next day, out of respect, I texted him back asking how his day was. He explained that he had a hangover and being a work didn't help. (He works ALL the time.) We didn't talk over the weekend seeing that I was still out of town visiting my family, so when I returned home I sent him a text. I only sent the text because I knew he was working, so I didn't want to call. (Where we work, he is the boss of his department and he works extensive hours.) Told him I made it back, he responded about how his day was and asked about my trip. I told him how the trip was and said, "Can't wait to see you." He responded to how my trip was and didn't respond to the "Can't wait to see you" text. After that, THAT WAS IT.

Guess what? He never called! He doesn't text anymore. At work he acts weird and can barely say hi or look at me. It's been 2 weeks!

I'm thinking he has a girlfriend and got caught. To be honest, I'm upset that he flirted with me all that time, got me to like him, and then left me hanging. Now I feel rejected. How rude!

Do I confront him for being rude?
Do I call?
Leave it alone?
How should I act around him at work?

Help, I'm confused!

You are so much better off NOT dating this guy. It's never a good idea to date men you work with... it can get to be a really ugly scenario if it doesn't work out.

I understand why you're upset with his behavior, but the best thing you can do is stay away from him and all his weirdness.

Don't be confused, just carry on as if nothing happened, and get on with what you were doing. Don't let him know a darn thing.

I would ask him what is going on and why he has not talked to you. That's all you can really do.