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confused_33 · Nov 21, 2011, 07:31 PM

I met this guy and we hit it off really well. He works out of town for 2 weeks and then home for a week. The first time he was home we hung out twice and had a great time. Then he left and we talked by text everyday, here is where it gets confusing.When he came home I saw him 2 more times and had plans for a third date and he blew me off. Then he left for work again, we barely talked maybe 2 or 3 times in 2 weeks, I was ready to let him go, then he text me asking if he can see me when he gets back.So against my better judgment I agreed, we had a great time and he said he really liked me a lot and wanted to see where this would go but he was afraid. Two day's went by and no contact then he text asking if he could see me again so I did. Once again we had a great time and he told me again how much he liked me, and that he really was scared because he liked me so much. We then went out to a pub for some drinks that was 3 day's ago and no contact again. I did text him and he did not answer. I am so confused. What is up? Should I just move on?

talaniman · Nov 22, 2011, 12:45 AM

I would ask him directly where he disappears to, but I honestly think at this time he may not want to appear eager. I don't think its unusual to date someone and not hear from them every day. But as I said, he may just be keeping a respectful distance and moves at a different speed than you do. Hard to say so have a talk about it. When he does appear again, and go from there.

Jake2008 · Nov 22, 2011, 05:05 AM

What do you mean by 'hanging out'. Does this end up in bed? If it does, then him 'being afraid' of a relationship, means squat. He's looking for sex and that's it.

If you mean, by 'hanging out', going out for dinner, to a movie, just having fun, without sex at the end of the night, then I'd say it's time for a talk.

Tell him you enjoy his company, and would like to see more of him. Be honest with him, and ask him if he thinks that at some point a relationship might develop. He should know by now, whether he's interested in a relationship, or not.

If you are finding that you care more and more for him, and he is not reciprocating other than the odd time, and continues to keep his distance in this way, I would consider moving on. You could find yourself really falling for him, and he simply may never be available, or may never feel the same way about you.

mmresd · Nov 22, 2011, 07:31 PM

It seems like he is getting what he wants, whenever he feels like he needs it. Don't expect anything serious with this guy.