My boyfriend and I had just gotten back together, we did the usual couple stuff everything seemed pretty back to normal. We are always breaking up it seems but when he comes back there I am. So he is real anal when it comes to his car, its always spotless and he washes it a lot!! One morning I stayed over at his place, he woke up early to take his daughters to school and then for a quick workout at the gym. all the will I slept until he got back. We got ready to go have breakfast as we walked toward his car quickly notice speckles of dirt/mud over the front of his car which is a bit weird. I made a comment about it, he says "maybe it rained." Another car in driveway which is black was spotless hadn't been used since I'd been there so rain was definitely out of the question. I didn't make a big deal or jump to conclusions. I got into the car buckled up and noticed a blonde short strand of hair, my hair is black med. Length. I brought it to his attention and says he hadn't had anyone else in the car and that maybe one of his daughters accidentally had it on them, their jacket, or something however again his daughters both being twins have long thick black hair no blonde. Needless, to say the day got worse when he all of a sudden had to go to work, he works for the oil field. He went off to work at 10we spoke to him briefly on the phone because he going to rest since he had been up all day. I left it as is and fell asleep and left for work early the next morning, he called at about 11am and the first question was "where are you?" not "how?" so I told him. Later, we got into a really heated argument at his place over something stupid he got back from work and smelled like beer he said horrible things to me, told me to leave, and made a scene in front of his mom. I of course was crying and asked him to calm down but he took it one step further by grabbing my neck and pushed me down to the floor with forceful anger. I left his house got home blocked his number and haven't spoken to him in a week, he has called a number of times but I don't pick up. He called today and I answered thinking it might be work I heard him say "hey," but his tone was so normal as though nothing had happened I made noise of disgust which he heard and I hung up on him. He called 12 times after that and I didn't answer then he stopped calling, it made me feel worse because it was valentines day and wanted to badly celebrate it with him. I make it so easy for him every time we breakup I take him back easily because before this he would play the blame card of course it was all on me and I ate it up every time. So I guess my question is what do? I love him so much he was my "one." I figure if I stay completely away he will eventually realize what he had and what mistakes he has made, that he might change. I need a guys mind right now because I don't know how to treat this problem. Please help.

You've already done the first step and blocked his home number. Next step, I would highly recommend getting your number changed and dump his butt for good!

There is absolutely ZERO excuse when anyone in the relationship physically abuses their partner. This guy is BAD news and you need to get out of there yesterday!

Say if you do get back with him, who's to say he won't do something worse to you?

Why would you even think twice about being with this man, he physically abuses you. No one should ever stay in a situation, that is like that. Get away from him!

Your out, so stay out!

You should not even be entertaining the thought of going back to someone who has abused you and is probably cheating.
There are red flags waving all over the place. Re read your question. Leave this creep alone.

I went out with my boyfriend last night, the night ended up being a horrible one. My boyfriend is the jealous type so I avoid any situation that will avoid him getting mad. Well, I had seen an old family friend who I'd grown up with not to mention his sister was my very best friend. I ignored him to avoid a fight with my boyfriend for I knew he would blow everything out of proportion. Well, I went to the restroom for a quick break and when I returned my childhood friend had gone up to my boyfriend and told him: "so your the one that ended up her? " Instead of denying anything I said I knew him but he still got upset. I tried to introduce my boyfriend to my old friend but he ignored me in turn because my boyfriend says that it must have been more than that. Me and this old friend hadn't seen each other in a long time and its never been more than that. I know this friend asked my boyfriend that because he was surprised to see that this was the guy who ended up with me, it was no more than surprise for my friend. I tried explaining this to my boyfriend but in his eyes I was a liar for whatever reason he chose to jump to conclusions and up broke up. My question is did I do something wrong, I don't feel like I did but I need some helpful advice about this whole issue.

It sounds like your boyfriend is insecure and gets jealous really easy. This is NOT your fault, this is his fault for letting it get to him. Did you go up to this guy and give him a hug and make-out with him? No, you didn't. You shouldn't have to walk on pins and needles every time you go out and a member of the opposite sex interacts with you.

While you could made the situation easier by having just gone up to your old childhood friend and introduced him to begin with, your boyfriend just needs to grow up and get over his jealousy. If he can't, then this is something you have to be prepared to live with as long as you two are together - but this is something that you should definitely talk to him about because I only see this getting worse down the road.

It isn't YOUR job to make him not jealous. It is HIS job to not be jealous.

Had to spread the Rep. UnluckyDucky is 100% correct. Well said!

No it's not your fault. You need to tell your insecure BF that if he's going to act in this manner then maybe the 2 of you aren't for each other , because you shouldn't have to avoid friends just because he has a problem.

Trust is one of the most important things in any relationship.

I'm sure your not willing to put up with that forever!!

Not your fault, if he wants to act like an immature baby, let him go be alone and be one

I am sad for you that you have to forfeit going out places because you are afraid of your boyfriends reaction. I am not sure why you deal with this. You didn't specify the length of this relationship, or if he has become physical during your fights. It sounds like you are scared of him, why would you want to be scared of someone you love and trust? Im sure you've tried talking to him but he doesn't change his behavior. Don't just talk to him, TELL him you do not deserve to be mistrusted. The previous posts were correct, he is insecure and this kind of jealousy eventually escalates into other kinds of controlling, dominant behavior. Stand up for yourself now, or get out

Your boyfriend sounds like a douche bag. You shouldn't have to walk on eggshels because he's an insecure little boy. He needs to grow up and you need to stop feeding his insecurities

Girl, please it is so not your fault he is overly jealous. You should be able to talk to who you want to with out his permission. A child hood friend should not have been a problem at all. You tried to explain he was just to stubborn to listen

No, you did not do anything wrong. Your boyfriend should trust you. If he asked you back, tell him that you can't unless he changed.

Not your fault. Cut this guy loose, or tell him he better shape up his act. If he cares about you, he will. If he doesn't, then you're better off without him, right?

I have never been an ugly girl and grew up with girls not liking me and mostly getting along well with guys. There are guys I shot down because for whatever reason I just wasn't interested so some have lied about dating me. The girls on the other hand usually hated me because a guy they liked or a boyfriend they had liked me, however I never pursued any of them. I ended up with a guy that everyone said I was to good for but I fell for him. I never cared what people said or the rumors I heard about him because I knew first hand what it felt like to be talked about. But when it came to my boyfriend (who is now my ex) he seemed to believe things that supposedly people would say about me. I know who I am and what I have done for the most part I'm a nice person, who has never slept around yet when he would become upset he'd name call, saying hurtful things like slut, easy, and anything in common with these two words. I feel that maybe he did this or believed it so he wouldn't feel guilty for cheating, treating me badly, or not showing me enough attention. So, is he believing these things to have an excuse or not? I'm just trying to understand why he did this

When men verbally abuse women slut and whore are the two most common words.He was just trying to get to you and I wouldn't give it a second thought.You know who you are ,don't let some verbally abusive guy make you doubt yourself!

You don't need to understand why he said what he said. And you will probarly never no why. The important part is that you are not with this loser anymore. Good ridence to bad rubbish I say! Never be with a man who verbally abuses you to feed his little ego.

He did it because he is an immature, easily influenced, insecure excuse of a man.

He isn't in your league.

You ever heard of the saying that misery loves company? Well this guy was miserable and wanted to make your life miserable and lower yourself esteem in the process. Stay away from guys like this in the future.