Il try and keep this short and sweet folks. I was seeing my ex for 2 couple of months and things were going fab. We split up in 2007 and both went our separate ways.

In sep 2008 he contact me and we met up, he then leant over and kissed me an I returned the kiss and he asked if we could start seeing each other again, I asked if he was single and he said yes there was knowbody since we split up!! This turned out to be a lie, he was seeing someone who lived 200 miles away I found out 2 months down the track. So I left after finding this out.

In March this yr he was in touch again saying he never was with this girl etc etc and asking me to give him another chance, obviuosley now I'm very cautious after the last time, whilst he was asking me to get back with him I found out he was asking aother girl to go on holiday with him, when I confronted him he said that this was true and that they were just mates. Then a few weeks later I asked him if he liked her and he said yes but that she had a daughter so they were just friends but you never know what may happen if they went away!! I was so taken back by this comment. Then fast forward to April this yr, I found out that they had slept together, I was distraught to say the least. All the time he was asking to get back with me he was asking her to go on holiday and then ended up sleeping with her.

I found out about them sleeping together as when he rang me in April I just came straight out and asked him, he said he didn't want to lie to me and that they had slept together one night afer they both got drunk and then went back to her.

He said that he didn't love her and that it didn't feel right like it did ith me when they woke up the next morning. He said that he told her he didn't want a relationship and just wanted to remain mates with her, he told me that he wanted us to be together. The following week I found out that this girl is gushing on Facebook that she is in love with him and that they are in a relationship!! I asked the guy about this and he said they were just there for each other and just mates?? Im so confused, its like he loves palying mind games with me.

He always tells me that he loves me and wants a future with me but his actions just never match his words, what do I do folks

I am sorry to hear this- but he is a player and he is just using you- if I was you I would DUMP HIM big time and NEVER LOOK BACK.

Just imagine if you did not get back with him- you would have healed and met someone way better than this ''thing'' that has been messing you about!

Leave him and don't tolerate this kind of behavior in the future. When someone is in a relationship with someone else, it should be exclusive unless otherwise specified and completely agree on.

Of course he loves you and wants a future with you. He just enjoys cheated on you and he knows you will alow it because you stay with him. Why do you do that?

If you continue to stay a liar and cheater then you can't complaint because he already made a fool out of you how many times?

If somebody loves you they won't intentionally hurt you by cheating and lying to you. They wouldn't want to cause you grief and hurt you by doing what he is doing.

He might say he loves but his behavior isn't. You should have been left but some how you stay because of the love you have for him and maybe you believe he will change. However, he proved you wrong how many times?

Do something you should have been done--leave. Stop settling because you deserve better but you have to realize that. He isn't the last man on earth you know there are others.

Run for the hills on this one, and don't look back.

Actions speak louder than words. He's lied to you MULTIPLE times and your intuition has always been right. Why do you have doubts? Because the situation is doubtful.

He's not worthy of your time, affection, and heaven forbid, love.

He's behaving with utter disregard and disrespect for your feelings, and I might add, the feelings of the other girls he 'plays' with.

Ditch him. Go no contact. He doesn't deserve another second of your time.

Treat yourself with respect, even if he won't.

Respect yourself and discontinue any contact with him. He is a snake and he will only hurt you. He is a boy, you need to find a real man who can treat you right!

Be sure you ask him to clarify what he said. Did he say he wanted a future with ONLY you? He sounds like a liar so I wouldn't believe anything he said.

He sounds like a right liar and cheater, I do think that he is playing mind games with you, my ex was exactley the same. He kept telling me that he couldn't stop thinking about me and who I was with, basically he didn't want me but he didn't want anyone else to have me either. Just ditch the jerk and don't look back

Don't pay any attention to what he says, what he does speaks volumes and he is not likely to change. You have shown him that he can keep you in the wings while he plays the field.

Leave the creep alone.

Got to agree with homegirl 50, he sounds like a reel creep - actions speak louder than words

I make it unanimous, get this liar out of your life forever, and stop the BS he is throwing at you.

It ain't going to work. How can you not know that?

OH my I'm so sorry to hear this! I have a case similar.. Please just be lucky you are not pregnant! I slept with a guy that I knew had a girlfreind in February... I met him in June 09'. I didn't want to commit off the bat I wanted to get to know him better. We got in a argument because he lied to me and said he broke it off with the girl after him and I got into a argument in September. He came around again in November. I had feelings for him and he knew it, but still wouldn't commit. I was upset finding out he was still with her. I told the girl of course he lied about it to her. Well after four months of not talking to me he comes to my door after changing his phone number and blocking me from everything on the internet... told me they were still together but he wanted to break it off with her... well, she got a hold of me because he told her we were friends... I didn't tell her we slept together, but I said fine I'll back off, they were about to move in together, after that I told him that I was done. He came back again, and said that he has feelings for both of us and he doesn't want to lose me and to just give him time... after (about a week) I realized I was being played so I just mentally blocked him out I was done, that was it. Until I find out I'm pregnant. He doesn't believe its his. After all I'm the whore... because I slept with him... there is nothing more than games being played here now. Walk away while you are free to now. Before something like this happens and your bound to a idiot for 18 years!