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I'm female, early 20's, with mild to severe social anxiety. My friend whom I've known since elementary school is going to teach aboard in a few days for at least a year. :( To celebrate, she decided to have a going away dinner and karaoke bar gathering last Friday. She invited me, my sister, some of her friends from college and several people from high school including this guy I used to like "Erin." It was the first time I saw any of them in 6+ years.

At dinner none of the hs guys said anything to me, not even 'hi.' One girl waved at me though. BUT in the private karaoke room, the guys I knew from high school sat on a couch together with Erin at the end. Someone had taken mine and my sister's spot on a different couch so we sat next to Erin. I got up soon after to grab my jacket, which had been left on a different couch before someone took my spot. When I went back to sit beside Erin, he said "what did I do?" (assuming I left briefly because of him) me; hm? You didn't do anything.

-- During a Celine Dione song my sister sang, he kept saying, ‘that’s Tara! She’s really good.” I pretended to wipe tear, and said "I’m so proud" and he laughed.

-- Randomly I was raising my legs (I was wearing a babydoll dress and tights) and looking at my them/my shoes. When my eyes shifted to him he was staring at my legs/shoes.

-- He playfully hit/slapped my shoulder after I said something.

-- He insisted we sing a song together, even when I tried to pretend I couldn't hear the suggestion and tried to make him sing with my sister. I even said "sing ***insert song*** it could be Erin Ft. Tara."

-- We went through the song book and kept choosing songs the other person didn't know, and making jokes about artists like Rick Ross, One Direction etc. And he kept teasing me. Ex. When I didn't know who sang "Paralyzed."

Me: wasn't it Hoobastank?
Erin: No, it wasn't. It was a band with a name that had to do with hands or something. ***can't remember***
Me: Finger Eleven?
Erin: Yeah!
Me: Really?
Erin: ***suspicious*** ***starts mocking me*** "Who could it be? I don't know? Finger Eleven??" ***acting like I knew all along.*** I laughed/smiled

-- He laughed/smiled with me the whole time, I think.

-- During a song, I said; this feeling like the type of song that you just do this to. ***I put my arms around his and Tara’s backs, and started swaying from side-to-side.*** He did the same, but when I saw that he wasn’t doing it to Mike who was on his other side, I stopped.

In the end Erin and I finally settled on two songs, but didn't even end up singing them together. (he sang them with his hs buddies) And at the end of the night I hugged everyone goodbye and said "it was nice seeing you again." Erin only gave me like a one armed hug though. I was surprised honestly, because if I can't get a 'real, strong hugs' from someone, I'd rather not get one at all. Haha Anyway, does it sound like he was playfully flirting with me, or just being friendly? He HAS a long-term girlfriend who left the celebration early, so I don't want to date him/steal him away from her. Just wondering if he was bored during the karaoke/missed me after 6 years and was just being a playful flirt. Or just being friendly? Any chance he thinks I'm attractive? Or do guys act like this with everyone?

Sounds like he was just having a good time with old friends. Don't read anything into it

I think you all had a good time and that's it!