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elenab · Jan 18, 2011, 09:02 PM

My boyfriend which I have been dating for a year just started to ignore me. He won't touch me or say he loves me or even kiss me anymore!! I have cryed so many times and that's just making everything worse. We live together, I mean I do everything for this guy. I clean his clothes make him food rub his feet I mean everything a wife would and more. I mean I'm not ugly. He tries to put off that I'm to pretty for him and he does not deserve me but he's wrong I love him but I wish he would show me the same. Please tell me how I can work things out with him because I don't want to lose the mani love for nothing.

talaniman · Jan 19, 2011, 07:23 AM

If you live together you are not dating, and things have changed from those days. Things have started to settle into a routine and that takes some adjusting. He is no longer courting you, he has you.

I think you have to realize that even though you live together you are still learning and adjusting to the reality of each others ways, and this is where the talking comes in. Sometimes you have to tell him what you want, and expect, and then see if he is about giving it to you, or at least his version of trying to. He may not say the words, but maybe his action speak for him. Instead of crying, pay closer attention, and know he isn't a mind reader, no man is.

You live together and its important to be honest with him, AND be a good listener, because sometimes we get so caught up and distracted in our own feelings we miss some very important signals from our partner, or take them the wrong way because we don't have an understanding of what they have told us.

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He tries to put off that I'm to pretty for him and he does not deserve me but he's wrong I love him but I wish he would show me the same.

Just think the difference it would have made if you had taken this as a compliment, instead of a judgment, instead of hearing this one statement through your own needs, and wants.

Its only been a year, and you both have much to learn, and a lot of work to do, why be so hurt, when you could be opening your mind and paying attention? Didn't your mama tell you how slow us men are?

answerme_tender · Jan 19, 2011, 07:33 AM

I agree that you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with this man of yours. Sometimes you just have to take your partner by the hand and lead them to what you need them to do and vise versa. Take care

anonymous97 · Jan 22, 2011, 07:31 AM

Hes probably got something going on but to get his attention ignore him like don't clean his clothes don't rub his feet he'll thinks going on and if he cares he'll ask you what's wrong.