He doesn't want a relationship.. Should I even bother?
Asked Feb 20, 2012, 04:26 PM
I have a problem in some means quite similar to the other askers but in some way very different. So I recened to ask for advice and I would be very grateful to get some ansvers.
The guy I'm "dating" Is coming from family with history of parental neglect(father left at 4 years of age and mother intentionally refused to put in time or love to her two boys) and for that fact it was that he had some criminal acts in youth.. He was bullied at school throughout all 12 years. He had a relationship with a girl that lasted for four years and was a case of growing apart and in the end because of having to work abroad. Then he had a year and a half long relationship with a woman who cheated him emotionally and culminated with lying to him about worktrip and going to vacation with another man. And the last one was a girl who had some kind of mental illness she neglected to tell him about and flew over coocoo's nest at the end trying to set him on fire.
Now to my problem.. We started communicating 2 months after the breakup with the last woman. We plainly talked for a month and clicked from the first time we met. Have spent every day together ever since. That is also complicated because he works abroad. Nevertheless we talk in messenger every day with webcam . When he is at home he is with me. We went to a vacation together. And I have been to his place at the country he works for two long periods.. And all this is been going on for 6 months now.
He has been telling me that he doesn't want a relationship for practically the whole time. Until now he says we are friends with benefits.
So here's the question.. What should I make of this kind of relationship? In my book the conception of friends with benefits is not talking every day and if absent inquiring where I am.. Some guidance on how to act and react would be good.. Or how to help him open up and face the situation.. Thank you for advance.. Any help is appreciated.
Last edited by Wondergirl; Feb 20, 2012 at 04:38 PM.