When I was 15 I met the girl of my dreams, we were together for 3 years, during that time I messed up a lot, got in a lot of trouble. I was so young that I did not know how lucky I was to have that girl.. So we fought a lot (mostly I started them, or did something that started them.. Fooling around, got in to fights etc) so the last 6 months was painfull for both of us. And it led to what has got to be the 2 worst heartbreaks in history.

I never stopped thinking about the girl, I have been in two longterm relationships after the relationship with that girl (one lasted a year. And one just ended - I met that girl at the easter holiday) since I broke up with the first girl I've changed a lot as a person, I have clear goals that I work to achieve, I have served 1 year in the military and I'm studying to take a masters in international economics now. I have got my act together, real good.

But the first girl, my soulmate is never far away from my thougts, I think of her almost every day. Although we haven't spoken in 3 years. I called her one night when I were really drunk, and the next day I checked my phone log and we have been talking for iver 2 hours. In the 3 years we haven't been talking we have maybe sent 5 textmessages to one and another (happy birthday, merry xmas etc)

I have seen her once since we broke up 3 years ago, and then I almost fell to the ground, I noticed she did that to, but she had this extremely sad look in her eyes when we made eye contact...

What should I do? Should I just do as I have been and neglect the whole thing?
Or should I try to establish contact again? (although I don't think she want that.. She has a boyfriend now, the first relationship she is in since we broke up)


Nb. Sorry for all the grammatical errors.. English is not my 1. Language

Most of us still have some type of emotional connection to our first love. To be honest most of us have that emotional connect to any true love connection we have had in our lives. But then we need to take the time to remember why we are no longer a couple.

This is were you fall back on your individual maturity. Are you bored with your current love life and reminiscing about past love affair. Making it seem better then it was.
You have stated that she has a boyfriend so the bottom line is she is off the market, so you need to forget about her and move on.

Once you truly meet your soul mate you will know it or should I say "feel it". Don't miss out on the opportunity of meeting that special woman by turning backwards in your life and starting messing around with a already taken exgirlfriend.

Leave her alone guy. Remembering the past always brings back those old feelings, especially during down times, but she has moved on, and is living her life as she should be, and so should you. Haven't seen my first soul mate in 40 years, she haunts me still from time to time, but they all do, yep you will have many.

What you thought there is only one soul mate for life? Naw, you just haven't met the others yet. Keep living your life, and you eventually will, NO DOUBT, but you seldom forget any of them for long. But that doesn't mean when you get the feeling to go back and catch up, or rehash old feelings, that it's a good idea. Nope, it only brings confusion to whatever they have going on and who does that to a soul mate? Let 'em be free to live a happy life without you.

Maybe you did lose this one, but there will be others. Kind of sad really, but it passes. Must have seen her during a visit home, huh?

Dude, thanks for the lifting words! Been kind of bummed out lately, and when I come to think about it; that is when the thoughts of her comes back and the nostalgia is strongest. It felt good to finally have written the feelings down, and got an answer to it. :)

I allways try to look forward, but it's kind of hard when she haunts me like she is.. But on the way I have hooked up with some pretty awesome girls, but I have never been so in love with any of them as I was with the first girl..

But if it is true what you say about a new soulmate, I will look forward and meet them with arms wide open.. thanks a lot!

Stop worrying about soulmates.

Just enjoy life & have fun.

She's not anything now & is causing you grief.
3 years ago. Let it go. Its all in your head.

Good thing she isn't your soulmate.

No one can take what is yours
If she is your true soul mate then she will one day appear into your life
Everything happens for a reason, maybe you were separated so that both of you could understands that the two of you are met to be, which you could not understand at the first place
And am very sure when the right time comes the two of you will meet near the ocean
Good luck Bro