Hi again! Well another problem. Ill give you's a brief description on it. Im currently living in the uk northern ireland again and I'm studying forensic science, human biology, chemistry ict and technology at school for A-level. I'm 17, turned 17 1st November.. This sounds totally irrelevant atm but you'll hopefully understand as I go on.

Well the problem lies where I have met this guy. I've lied about my age.. I didn't intend to it was when I was 16 we met at a holiday camp and I was illegally playing bingo with the family and won 500 odd pound so when this entertainer asked my age my dad said 20 because I have ID, fake obv saying that I am 21 now .

Well me and this entertainer got talking and I thought it'd be best to continue lying about my age for the duration of my hoilday simple because I didn't think we'd go much further after I went home.

Now however we are in a relationship from August 2008. It's really serious and I love him more than anything in the world.. ( by the way you might not think it from reading this but I am really mature for my age because I've had to grow up fast if you get me ) Anyway this guy is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I know its love because of the feelings I have towards him. He says he feels the same way about me and I've even talked about moving over to live with him across the water when we both get the money.

Well he thinks am 21, go to university studying forensic science, I work in a old age care home and in a chip shop.

Reality is I am 17, I don't study at uni, I study forensics at college, I do in fact work both in a nursing home and chip shop in my spare time after college and at weekends.

So I haven't lied about a lot I have been myself and everything me and him have talked about is what we both want...

When He told me earlier today that he has found the perfect engagement ring for me.. reality hit. I would LOVE to MARRY HIM but I can't accept until I have explained to him that I'm 17 and why and how the lie has come about.

I am TERRIFIED that he will leave me, because I REALLY HONESTLY properly no messing around LOVE HIM.

I no I sound like the most terrible of terrible people doing this to him but I need help on how to tell him, what to say? I really don't want to hurt him or for him not to trust me because I haven't lied about anything else! How do I tell him that I'm 17, what will I say?

Its hurting me at the thought of hurting him but the longer I leave it the harder it gets? Please help ! I'm begging lol x :(:(:confused::confused::confused::confused: I love him

I think a problem was that you were gambling in the first place. It has pretty much lead to all of this. And if he cares about you, he'll understand if you tell him the truth. Sit him down when he's calm, and explain exactly what happened. And by exactly, I mean EXACTLY. Leave nothing out if you can. And do it as soon as possible. The longer you hold it off, the more damage it will cause.

You are your biggest problem and if your telling us your so smart then you already know this relationship will not work. You say your in love and you want to marry this man, but your relationship is only based on lies you've told. You had the opportunity to come clean but chose to jepordize your integrity with one lie that lead to another.

At 17 you may be book smart but you might need a little more time to experience lifes ups and downs before committing to one person. I did the same thing at your age. I thought I was so in love and did lie and it bit me bad. It was one of those life altering experiences that made me who I am today.

You have a choice! You can come clean and if he's willing to accept, then you have your answer about how he feels about you. But do yourself a favor and focus on school, your goals, on YOU! Good Luck!

"I am TERRIFIED that he will leave me, because i REALLY HONESTLY properly no messing around LOVE HIM." - you

Have you thought about what is going on here? (no not your "wedding" or "love" not even your "feelings", as those are just words and mean nothing.)

You feel guilty for lying. You need to forgive yourself for being human, then buckle in and just tell him, you words are your own. Then you have to leave it up to him, for he has his own mind, his own feelings, and his own actions. Other wise why would you "love" him?

Also, for future reference, keep the word "love" to a min. It just sounds like you're trying to convince some one that you love him, and relly that's great if you do.

You sound like a smart gal, young and hopeful. But don't let that fool you, we all make mistakes. Question is will you learn from yours?

Peace be with you.