Hey so I been speaking to my ex on MSN today. We casually talked twice. Had an update on each others lives. I suggested we go out for a drink, she said perhaps in easter hols.

Mmm o well its progress. Doesn't seem that bothered about speaking to me.

It hasn't bought me back to the original heart break either :P

With the greatest respect Jiser, looking at her age 17/18 is very young and perhaps a good indication as to why you have broke up 3 times in a row. I'm 26 and was with a woman who was much younger than me for 3 years and she was 17 when I met her, now 21. She broke up with me 3 times also, every time, it was her choice and her reason was that she wanted to be single again and missed this. Basically, she was too young for anything serious and this may be the case with your ex too.

I do feel for you though mate, it is hard I know. I am 7 months post breakup now and the first 2 times were for a very short period, less than 2 weeks.. but this final time was a serious breakup and I had to go through a long process to accept that and move on.

I hope this for you too!

By the way, I am impressed with all the advice you are giving here on AMHD! Keep it up.

Hey thanks :) Hope to be on here for along time yet!

Luckily I have a great bunch of mates, hobbies and I am allways busy. Ill tell you running along the beach is great, that's my new hobby.

It will be a long time to accept the breakup for what it is, I think probably a year. I still think of people in my past life who I was connected to every day but it is now just fond memories.

I hope to be my ex's friend at one point maybe even more. Good things come to those who wait though no?

The way I look at it - I have friends I get on better with than my ex who do everything with me and I can phone them up whenever I want and chat to them for an hour np. I do not need her and I have a great life atm. Don't particularly want to loose someone as a friend who I care and cared about and never speak to again because of an incompatibility.

Patience is a virtue and yes, I do believe that good things come to those who wait but don't wait on her, what is good to come may or may not include her.

You have a good attitude!!

Well is that realli breaking the rules she made the first move right.. as long as you make it plain and simple... act like you don't care then its OK from my view

Well I just unblocked her. Don't know how to converse with her really, but I will be unavailable and busy as far as she can on IM. Then I will ask her out some time.

Don't particularly want to go out with her again anyway, she's too boring ;] and I am having far too much fun at the moment (so he says).

I woundn't ask her out. Let her make the first move and contact you and ask you out. Then when she does tell her you'll think about it and get back to her. If you ask her out it gives her all the power.

Ahh cr*p I asked her out for the drink. But she said yeah maybe it would be nice to catch up with you.

I just acted fine with it and said yeah it would be cool, gtg see you :)

Ahh cr*p. I asked her out for the drink. She said yeah maybe, it would be nice to catch up with you. I just said yeah cool, gtg see you :)

Anyway I am a busy bee, if she wants me then she will have to come get me because there are plenty of other fishes waiting to be caught who are much more exciting than the ones I caught.