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    Ann84 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 2, 2011, 03:16 PM
    I need guy advice BIG TIME
    Hi everyone,

    Ok here is the thing. I met someone and right away we got serious. We fell for each other hard and he was crazy about me. He's 32 and I'm 27. We started talking marriage right away and we were both so in love. He's divorced with 2 beautiful twin daughters. His daughters fell in love with me and I fell in love with them too. Even his ex-wife loves me and we have a great relationship.. no baby mama drama lol.

    About a month and half into our relationship he proposed to me for my birthday and we got engaged. We started planning our wedding right away. Well a few weeks after that he had to take his elderly dad into his home. His dad is very sick and needs 24 hr care/supervision. His dad is unable to eat or drink through his mouth and has to be fed through a feeding tube. So he has to clean, bath, feed, etc his dad. He also had to get on FMLA from work until all the paper work went through for a nurse to be coming in and helping him.

    Well during this time I noticed that he was becoming distant with me and I was trying to be patient as possible and just helping him during this time. I was encouraging him and tried to help him as much as I could. Well we started having little issues here and there. Well a week ago we got into an argument and decided to take "a break".

    Well last night we finally talked and he said that we should just be friends for now. He said that he loves me and still sees himself married to me but he doesn't have time for a relationship right now. He said that we need to start over and have a solid foundation. I agreed with him however, I'm a little scared that things are going to be different.

    Is there hope that we will get back together or is he just talking out of his butt? LOL!
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    Nov 2, 2011, 03:41 PM
    He has a lot on his plate, and you are being pushy. Even if not actively you being there reminds him of a commitment, while he already has a huge one, his father. Give him the space, support him in his decisions, and there is a chance for him to learn how to juggle both things at once, until then, stay away.
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    Nov 2, 2011, 05:39 PM
    You guys moved in to this relationship really fast and he now has his sick father to take care of. Give him a break!
    Give him the space he needs.
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    Nov 2, 2011, 10:23 PM
    "I met someone and right away we got serious."

    He isn't serious. You are. He wanted something else.
    Hes still reeling from his stuff. Regardless of the ties you have w/his family.

    "he said that we should just be friends for now"

    All I know, whenever I hear that, I'm gone.

    Friends? Yeah right.

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