Hello All,

I have been dating this girl for 3 and half years. In that time I've been cheated on once and it took about month or two for her actually tell me the trust. She kept getting mad when I confronted her. About Last December we had a huge fight. Basically she said I never listened to her, immature, she was unhappy, thought we should split up but be FWB's. I was in panic mode and begged her don't do it. Result we got back together and a week later finally told me it was because deep down depress, massive stressed, was very emotional and you annoyed me every bit.

Now during summer her best friend found a guy. Result they ended up moving out in apartment together, didn't talk or nothing and called each other names and all sorts of things. At the end last month we went on a vacation. I just noticed her friend and her became buddies again. This girl is a terribly bad influence and all that. She asked me if they should be friends deep down I wanted to say it will be same way but I actually told her do what you want. We had a decent trip not fighting until last night. I feel this is what set my girlfriend over the annoyed meter. We were going miss the bus at the mall and I told her it was out that way she said no other way. I yelled at her which I rarely do. At end of the situation she was right and I was wrong and I apologized. We went to our hotel room and she felt normally cuddled with me and everything. We held hands kissed on way back home.

Since I told her this is our week together since we do not see each other are we going hang out Saturday and Sunday? She said no babe I got a lot of homewok etc. Later that night my friend finds a FB pictures her at a bar with the friend and her boy toy about 1 - 2 hours from where she lives. I got mad at her and said I find that really immature you could tell you. She said sorry but I am very annoyed and I needed to get out. We were supposed to hang out Monday like normal but she cancelled that plan as well.

Tuesday comes and she said the same thing she said the first time we had this fight. You never listen to me, your immature, you haven't hit reality yet, and I am unhappy, we going two separate ways. I simply said I don't think so we sort of had argument but not really. End conversation she wanted space and time to herself and I said I will give you that be waiting. She said thanks for respecting my decision and in a couple days we can talk.

This whole week been a mess, finding out she's going parties, went friends mom house in a different state etc. I feel like she's not truly taking effort in this at all. I thought space meant were together everything but no speaking terms, and our mutual friend got out it were not dating.

I had a Facebook status up about I was disappointed in my decision to drink etc. but I didn't put drink. She instantly texted him asking if I cheated on her and what was post about. He told her honesty but tried butter it up.

I'm at the point I love her deeply and I feel this isn't her speaking from the heart but I cannot keep doing this and we need to find a happy medium point because coming from past relationships we both want each other but she doesn't know how to deal with this

Also the last talk and her reasoning was totally stupid. I live with my parents waiting to live with my girlfriend. She told me I'd live with her after high school, far chase but I had hope. Mom told her to live on the dorms, I respected that decision. Now after dorms we were supposed to live together but her mom said she must live with a girlfriend before me. It was hard but I respected that and now we were supposed to move to another city once she was going to be in nursing school. I found out from mutual friend that she is not going to nursing school and she wants to be social worker and going stay and her current school closer to myself. She said I had not hit reality yet because I have not moved out my parents' house. Sadly I pay as much bills as she pays living there. Her parents pay for college, rent, and food sometimes. So her reasoning there is slightly not right.

Second reasoning is that I never listen. If I do anything wrong I'm not listening. I take a shower too hot before she can put her make up on, um the latest one she asked me to go dentist to get a cleaning because I needed it. Asked me for a year and I wasn't ready to do it because cost a lot and I have to pay for it. Same point I've asked her about year get back on BC and she said same thing as I did about dentist and she actually has to pay for it also.

She claims she's unhappy well I know that's a lie because I would have seen it a lot longer and she wouldn't have enjoyed trip at all.

I feel Monday I have to sit talk to her and I've planned through my head over and over.

I'm making clear statement I'm not begging for you stay with me anymore. I will say my outlook on this and not argue yell make her feel at 100% fault, she will have her chance. We will have hopefully compressing session and I want us to have strategy to work it out in the end. I would even go as far a counseling session with my girlfriend and I'd pay for it.

Deep down I want an answer from her truly from the heart but I know I get depression, stress, and emotional part as well. She's going ask you told me change you would but those reasoning up there how I can change when she won't.

I love this girl to death and I just don't know how to make her see the decision without it ending before it was clear. Like stated above it took her a week after we got back together to admit what was actually the matter.

Yes, have a talk because I don't think you two have the same level of commitment, or the same out look on the future.

Today I actually just had enough of her telling all our mutual friends about her cool week and didn't care about it one bit to me. I dumped her today but I told her we can surely talk face to face. I doubt she will and when I dumped her via text (which I never wanted to go that way) she had no emotion it felt like. She then followed up on telling everyone how horrible person I am she won't be looking for anyone but figuring out her life. So I take it that it was not going end good in the talk either due to her not wanting me be apart of it anymore. I feel like I can move on but I feel like it was true love at same time. No this isn't my first true love either had couple before her

Today I actually just had enough of her telling all our mutual friends about her cool week and didn't care about it one bit to me. I dumped her today but I told her we can surely talk face to face. I doubt she will and when I dumped her via text (which I never wanted to go that way) she had no emotion it felt like. She then followed up on telling everyone how horrible person I am she won't be looking for anyone but figuring out her life. So I take it that it was not going end good in the talk either due to her not wanting me be apart of it anymore. I feel like I can move on but I feel like it was true love at same time. No this isn't my first true love either had couple before her

And you will have true love after her too!

Right now feels like we need help. Seeking advice from professional I feel best idea. She's under a lot stress at the moment. She is known to have everything planned and goes how it should. Now she didn't get nursing school she is purely lost about where she wants to go. I feel I need give her space but at same time she could have did it in a different way.