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    Jul 9, 2010, 11:50 AM
    Girlfriend needs "time & space"?
    I know this is classic line , but, the situation isn't so classic. (PARDON ME IF I RUN ON) Im 26,I make music and have been following this career path for a long time with success on many levels.This means from time to time I struggle financially etc. A little less than a year ago I met a girl who made me feel different than I ever have-to say the least. We have had some ups and downs but always pull through. When we have them-she shuts off,completely-no affection words or anything. Anyway , We want(ed) to move in together but I need to get myself working a bit more and some money under me. I come from a very meager upbringing . I don't own a vehicle yet... These are my quirks but I am not lazy,very clean,attractive, orderly,healthy and very loving. She has recently expressed concern that I am not able to be the provider or gatherer and I am.. it has just been hard to nail a job. So last week I finally get one-and we have one of the greatest weekends of my life. We both claim to feel closer than ever. Well Wednesday night we were chatting online and had a little misunderstanding and she signed off. It was honestly a small misunderstanding. So she ignores my calls all night,and the next day. So worried, I go to see her and she refuses to speak to me gets dressed up and leaves me at her place. Not a word. So I end up seeing her later on that night (she had seen movie with her sister) and she tells me she is sick of my instability and that our love is enough to keep it all together. She doesn't want to talk about anything else and needs "time". She said she would be willing to work through it, but won't even give me a hug when only a day ago we were wrapped in one another. I now have two jobs and am on the fast track to stability and do not want to lose her-what should I do?
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    Jul 9, 2010, 12:04 PM

    You need to give her the space she wants, however it would seem she's wanting out of the relationship, or why would she even want a break to start with. To me anyone who wants a break really is saying they want out.
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    Jul 9, 2010, 01:46 PM

    Give her what she asks for, time and space, and keep working on you stability.

    She dumped you don't forget that, and that's a fact you must face and be able to do your own thing and succeed and enjoy it.

    Not languish in false hope, or in limbo waiting for her to change her mind. At least you get to keep your dignity and self respect by the choices you now make for yourself, based on facts, and not just feelings.

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