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rivas_55 · Jul 13, 2014, 10:54 PM

Here is the situation
I been in a relationship with my girlfriend for less than 2 weeks.
I really really like this girl, I'm willing to do anything to be with her and get things to work.
She texted me today saying she's having doubts that we are even compatible. And the reason why is because my ex. My ex posted a pic of her and I making out and my girlfriend seen it, but its an old picture. After that she has a hard time trusting me, I done everything to make it better. I sent her flowers to work, last week she got step throat and I went to her work and left honey, concentrated lemon juice and flowers. I also deleted my ex from everywhere so she can see , I don't care about anyone else but her.
I hate when I feel she's distant to me because of that. What the should I do to make things better? I even sent her pizza to her work and the staff.
I really don't know what else can I do :( this kind of situation are so frustrating, because I have accidentally fallen in love with this girl.
Any advices?

Fr_Chuck · Jul 14, 2014, 01:22 AM

Just a photo, of a ex, would not be enough to do this... Honestly, you seem very clingly.. only dating for less than a week, and you go to her work... personally lucky you did not get a restraining order.

Then pizza to work.. I would worry , she is scared of you, more than worried about an ex.

In two week, you do not even know her,, in one week, she is still a basic stranger.

joypulv · Jul 14, 2014, 02:12 AM

If a brand new girlfriend can't handle a picture from your past, then she is insecure and too easily driven into doubt, and that just means trouble for the future. She will be suspicious of everything and everyone, and you will be miserable. PLUS, as already suggested you are overdoing the gifts in the first two weeks, so you need to stop too!

rivas_55 · Jul 14, 2014, 10:46 AM

So what should I? She's coming over to speak to me tonight

What should I do? She's coming to speak to me tonight?
And I didn't bring the pizza at work, I called so they delivered lol

Wondergirl · Jul 14, 2014, 10:54 AM

Originally Posted by rivas_55

So what should I? She's coming over to speak to me tonight

What should I do? She's coming to speak to me tonight?
And I didn't bring the pizza at work, I called so they delivered lol

It sounds like you are trying to buy affection and attention.

Why is she going to visit you tonight? To accomplish what?

talaniman · Jul 14, 2014, 11:27 AM

You may be in love (in two weeks? ) but you seem to be caught between two drama queen NUTS! Yeah the new girl is a drama queen too. You must like loony drama queen girlfriends. Pizza and flowers never work, RUN from them both.

Did you really fall in love in TWO WEEKS? You must be a little crazy yourself.

Precious7 · Jul 14, 2014, 11:28 AM

I agree with others that Giving gifts was little too much for this situation (no matter whether you delivered it or pizza guy). First thing you listen to her what she says, what her real problem is, and as you've said in your post that ''your ex posted that pic'', so when she posted it? Is it before you started dating your new girlfriend or after? If its after, then may be she got hurt because your ex still can share those private moments with you, even when you are dating your New GF. Anyway! You just try to know what she has to say and what is bothering her, then you tell her that you've removed your ex form every where so that she can never do something like that again.

smoothy · Jul 14, 2014, 11:42 AM

Imagine me beating my head on the wall as I write this.

Run,. run far, run fast, run like your life depends on it.

talaniman · Jul 14, 2014, 11:48 AM

Maybe the new girl has had enough drama for the last two weeks and she is the one about to run.

smoothy · Jul 14, 2014, 11:49 AM

I'd offer her the same advice if she was here. A think she is already at the starting block and situating herself waiting for the starter pistol.

rivas_55 · Jul 14, 2014, 02:24 PM

I told her we should speak in person to speak about this situation.

I know her for 6 months. But we just got into a relationship. I didn't want to rush anything so she sees that I wasn't desperate or anything like it.

But to be honest I think it won't last. I have the feeling she's going to end it up tonight. I think she's had enough and will pull the trigger tonight.
I also made my ex delete that picture. I tried to everything I can to make things better. So according to you guys, I should let it go?

Wondergirl · Jul 14, 2014, 02:32 PM

Originally Posted by rivas_55

I told her we should speak in person to speak about this situation.

I know her for 6 months. But we just got into a relationship. I didn't want to rush anything so she sees that I wasn't desperate or anything like it.

And what are you going to tell her about how you are rushing into things? How are going to explain your actions?

rivas_55 · Jul 14, 2014, 02:35 PM

I have nothing to feel guilty about, cause I haven't done anything wrong. I don't even know what I'm going to say. I'm very smooth but I doubt it will work tonight.

smoothy · Jul 14, 2014, 05:54 PM

Must I remind you that you said...

Originally Posted by rivas_55

I been in a relationship with my girlfriend for less than 2 weeks.
I really really like this girl, I'm willing to do anything to be with her and get things to work.

There is a LOT wrong with that.

You also said..

Originally Posted by rivas_55

I didn't want to rush anything so she sees that I wasn't desperate or anything like it.

Refer back to your first statement of being with her for less that 2 weeks. THats everyones definition of rushing it. It also does sound desperate.

Speaking as a dude with a LOT of years of hindsight.

And sorry... speaking as a guy... believing that, and saying it... is mutually exclusive with being "smooth".

IF you want to be smooth....you have to learn patience and timing.....both.

rivas_55 · Jul 14, 2014, 09:48 PM

I did. I waited 6 months. Getting to know her, go out in dates, I didn't even try sleeping with her until we officially started dating. Which it did happen the first day it was official. I have spoken to her 4 hours ago, I spoke to her and luckily things went well that I made her cry cause the things I said made her heart smile. So let's see how things go from now. Thanks everyone for your advices

talaniman · Jul 15, 2014, 05:06 AM

That's a completely different story from the original one. The six months of dating would have been good to know from the beginning.