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IThunder · Oct 16, 2009, 11:46 AM

First time question, try to keep it brief.
I have been dating a single mom of a 2 1/2 year old for 3 months. She is 27 and I'm 31.Recently she had to move back in with her parents and family. About three weeks ago she begin fighting with both her parents and sisters, about whether she was living a good "christian" lifestyle. She became distant with me, and I let her know that I would be there to support her and listen to her. A week ago she blew me off for a date, I asked if everything was okay, she said no, and would call me in an hour. She never called. 2 days later she texted me that she is not good at asking for help or accepting help, that she cares about me, and was sorry for hurting me. However she needs some space "to get back to a healthy place in her head and emotionally". I didn't reply and gave her space. I have not been in contact with since. I guess my question is how to be there while still giving her space, and how much time to give her to figure things out?
Thanks

Jake2008 · Oct 16, 2009, 11:50 AM

The best thing you can do is respect her wishes.

While you sound like a very good, caring man, she may need time to get back on her feet under he own steam. That may include leaving the family home and getting away from their pressure too.

The plus side is, when she is ready, and if you choose to be available when that happens, you'd have a much better shot at a relationship by not having contact with her now, when she didn't want it.

I hope it works out for you.

I wish · Oct 16, 2009, 01:34 PM

Harshness warning

The way I see it is, she's got a lot of baggage and it's not things that can go away overnight. These are problems will surround her for a very long time.

So, unless you have a lot of patience with her throughout the relationship, it's going to be difficult to have a healthy and happy relationship. Something for you to think about while you're giving her time and space to sort out her issues.

talaniman · Oct 16, 2009, 05:47 PM

Give her what she asked for, and leave her alone, until she is ready, which could be years, or never. Do your own thing, and don't hold your breathe waiting.