Ok I don't usually resort to the internet for advice but I'm desprate and I need some real opinons on my problem.PlEaSe HeLp Me
Ok me and my Girlfriend have been going out for 4 months now and I've been thinking she mite be the girl for me.I know that's a bit KrAzY since were both only 16 and have a lot ahead of us.
Well yeah we hadn't gone even 2 days without seeing each over up until last Thursday when she blew me off for her Friend(:confused: ) Jenet and she had already told me she had plans for Friday night with jenet and some of her other freinds(Total Sluts).So that's 2 days no biggy I know it was bound to happen eventually.Now on Saturday night she was busy with jenette again.I would text her but she seemed to be real discrete and not tell me anything e.g. Wat you up to tonight babe-Nothing just hanging out with freinds( Total Sluts).Also both nights when I text her where are you she said back ohh I've gota go good nyt babe.Thats at 8 20ishWTF.Now on Sunday after Recovering from her past 2 hangovers we were talking on the phone and she told me she had Kissed jenet:eek: .I Asked how that happened but she wouldn't exsplain or let me come and see her that day.

Now she came and saw me yesterday and she had hickys all over her neck(Jenet arrgh).She said she'd given jenet them as well.Now I still classifie that as cheating even though they were both trolleyed.Now I'm concerned that she actually had sex with some guy.Wouldnt surprise me seeing the way we met was both being drunk walking down the street at night and she pursued me into having sex with her in a near by park even though she had a boyfriend at the time.
When I said to her how do I know jenet gave you those she started getting really angry and deffencive blurting out stuff about me not trusting her but when I said I was convinced she was back to normal with seconds .Now Jenet would be the perfect excuse because she once told me she hooked up with jenet and I showed excitement towards the idea as any male would.

I made it clear to her how I feel about cheating many times and we both Love each other a lot.Im really confused all these things running through my head.Did I mention she was a Total Slut Before we went out and well she still might be.Please someone what should I do I love her so much but this changes everything and I don't know if I can trust her cause she's a really good liar and actor.Nothing like this has every happened before.She told me she wants to be with me fore the rest of her life a lot.Im really wanting to dump her but I love her.

You keep saying her friends are sluts.. and that your girlfriend was a slut before she started dating you... do you think people change over night?
Wake up!

Birds of a feather flock together. It appears that you have gotten yourself into a situation where your girl is confused. You just happen to be in the middle. Ask her to make up her mind or you are going to bounce. Unless you like the idea. Some people like this type of relationship, but in my opinion cheating is cheating.

Honey your very young and the reality is that you most likely are not going to be w/ your girlfriend forever. Your going to meet a lot girls over the years. And your girlfriend seems like she has a pattern of cheating. She not going to change for you. So be realistic either leave her and respect yourself or be quiet and suck it up.if she is your age she is too young and wants to experiment.she is not ready to settle.

Seems to me she is not ready to settle down and she is not ready for a relationship of any kind. If she cheated on her old boyfriend with you, chances are she will (did) cheat on you. Respect yourself enough to walk away. She has a lot of growing up to do, and you do not need to wait for her. Enjoy your life, enjoy your friends.

Thank you a lot guys but we have been doing so well in the past 4 months and it seemed like she was really committed to me.

4 months is not very long, unless we're counting doggy years, so let's break this down. You are here because you are Unhappy, and obviously haven't been doing that well, because you think she has cheated with at least one man and one woman. I don't see this ending well. Even if you want to make things work, it's clear that she doesn't respect you or your feelings, so if you delve in deeper and get more hurt later, you have only yourself to blame. You clearly don't trust her and have a low opinion of her past. I can't imagine why you would waste any more time on her.

Well... its good you found out now and not when you had the feelings for her you are much to young to know what that is... trust me I was with a guy for a year and a half and I broke up with him... just don't ber the person everyone is expecting you to be yourself and if inside you are hurt show it the key is to make her feel a s bad as possible but I have to warn you under no curcumstance should you date her again no matter how much she promises she won't do it again

She’s not the girl for you.

48 hours into the relationship and she’s blowing you off? Usually you have to go out with them for a lot longer than that. That’s the first clue she’s not for you.

Kissing is cheating even if it is with another woman and so soon into the relationship.

Probably a good concern seeing as how she has proven time and again she can’t be trusted. Trust is another big issue for the girl for you.

Good God. What about that situation says trust, self respect, dignity, or really anything positive to you? Look I realize you hormones are kicking right now but if some girl walks down the street and just gives it up she’s got problems. I mean deep, deep, emotional problems. No offense but it’s probably beyond what your capable of understanding at your age. She needs a therapist yesterday because that kind of behavior is a desperate cry for help. I would not be surprised to find out she was molested if she acts with such disregard. You could have been anyone, with any weapon, or any motive and she just pursued you to go have sex with her after meeting her walking down the street.

Trust me though, until she gets therapy for an extended period or even some life experience this girl is not trustworthy, is not safe, and is not for you.

Dude she’s controlling you through emotions. She gets angry to make you back down and obey. Just like you did. I wonder where she learned that.

Learn this now and remember it. You love her. You never speak for the other one.

No way? You mean a girl that walks down a street, sees a guy and screws him in the park is not a total slut. Of course we all can see that. Again, and I don’t want to overstep my boundaries, I’m not a professional therapist, but that’s the behaviors of somebody who has been molested. At this age, she sleeps around, lies with no concern or for no reason, lies constantly, sleeps with men and women, gets angry over questions about her sexual discretions, has multiple boyfriends, uses people for sex and leads them on through sex. It’s all there.

Dude, that girl is in a world of emotional pain. I’ll tell you flat out that she’s not safe to settle down with. She needs a therapist badly but she may not even know what to do or say if she had one. The only thing I can tell you is that in relationships one person is up and the other is down. The person who is up NEVER brings the person who is down up with them. The person who is down, ALWAYS brings the other person down with them. It’s obvious you headed down, so either cut the cord and get out or be dragged all the way to the bottom before you rebuild yourself.

Cheating is cheating... whether it's with a boy or a girl.

Somebody cheats once... where is the trust... move on.

Sometimes love is not enough... there's trust, there's respect, there is a lot more in a relationship than just love...

You are young and I think that you will be able to find a wonderful girl who deserves you.

Don't accept cheating...

Not good.

U Don't Understand I Hadn't Gone 48 hrs without seeing her during these 4 months.I know you all think I don't even know the meaning of love but I truly believe I'm in love. With this girl and yeah mmaybe love isn't enough.Did I mentions she hits me when she's angery or when I say something wrong.Or when I mishear her or anything I do wrong.I Have bruise's all over my arms and legs.Shes not strong just consistent.Shes a really nice person and she's always kind to me but maybe that's not enough.She Said to me yesterday that I don't care about what she say's just what she dose.I thought to myself since when have people been judged on what the say and not on there actions.Actions speak louder then words.I Don't know is she has cheated on me with a guy but lots of people think she has just because she's was(Maybe still) a slut.She Says she's in love with me.

OK... she's a really nice person and she is always kind to you... but you have bruises all over and she gets angry when you say something wrong ?

Get real.

Your infatuated and when your 30 and you've long since forgot about this girl you'll know I was right.

Well you just proved you have no idea what love is. You also continue my earlier belief that she was abused.

Dude, I am in no way, under no circumstances endorcing you hitting her. But need to stick up for yourself and never allow anyone to hit you repeatedly, especially your own girlfriend. Grow a pair of balls and tell her to stop or walk away. If she follows you look her dead in the face and let her know you are not to be F-ed with.

This BS isn't love it's a desperate way for her to hurt people around her just like she was. Your getting an early lesson in being man, and I'm telling you being beat by your woman is not a manly quality. It makes you look pathethic, weak, and useless. That is exactly the kind of women men cheat on. Being her whipping boy is not love, it is not friedship, it is not respect, and it is absurd.

There is such a thing as being too nice and I fully admit I suffer from it with women, but no way, no how would I ever be nice enough to let a woman smack me around to the point of bruises under the lie that it's love.

Actually she's not a nice person.

It's almost like she's trying to confuse you, and get you to the point of not questioning her. But nice girls would never do that would they?


Let's get real, would you run into a burning building? Of course not because the building is not stable. So why do you continue to stay with someone who is not stable and burns you?

Actually she once was molested when she was 7 by her brother and when she was drunk last year one night sum guy she was with was poking her out and she claims that he raped her after she had removed her panties:confused: .I Know she's a f**ked up girlfriend.

Yeah all her behaviors are consistent with that of someone that was molested. I'll be honest with you and you might not like hearing this but trust me when I tell you with some life experience you'll know I'm right. Stay away from that girl. If she's crying rape after she took her own panties off or sleeps with a guy she immediately after meeting him walking down the street, physically abuses people, it's only a matter of time before she'll cry rape with you.

She's already beating you like she probably wanted to her brother. Your being way to nice to her and she's taking advantage. Eventually she's going to see how far she can push that. Dealing with cops isn't like it is on TV either. They aren't going to investigate the evidence for months getting every little bit of evidence talking to everybody she's and you have ever known. Reality is she crys rape, you've had consentual sex but your DNA is on her. She's already proven she can change her emotional state on the drop of a hat. By your own admission she's an "actor." A prosecutor looking for a "homerun" files charges. Unlike TV the cops and prosecutors aren't always the good guys who protect the innocent. They have agendas and will use you for them even if they know your not guilty. So the only person you can protect is yourself.

Combine her acting, her emotional issues, and ability to go into the drama mood and the love of that drama immediately combined with her underlying hatred for people close to her that are supposed to look out for her and protect her and your screwed. If she keeps hitting you and you don't think one day and hit her back then have sex with her and she goes to the cops you really screwed. In fact with all those bruises you have your still screwed. All she has to do is say she was fighting you. There is absolutely nothing safe about her or your relationship with her.

Thank U.You Sound Very Very wise chuff.Incredible how intelligent you are.And yes I would be screwed because I am not on good terms with the police and I have previous convictions.But I don't have to worry about that cause she didn't tell anyone about this guy raping her except me.She claims that the guy was ugly and after 5 minutes his friend came and pulled him off her but I talked to both of them and they both denie it so I don't know.Ive Dumped her and now she's having a guilt trip on herself revealing to me that she's always know she was a bad girlfriend and was hoping she'd never lose me.Shes begging for me back saying shell be the best girlfreind eva and she'll do anything.BTW
In New Zealand Chuffs is slang for meth and all your other variations of the word applie as well so excuse me for initaly thing you were a meth adict.

Thank you. Help me spread the message!

Maybe it was a test run to build her confidence and see what exactly would happen.

Her big problem with being raped is that he was ugly? That's not exactly a healthy view of rape - if one even took place which to be honest I doubt did.

But she won't. She had a chance and didn't. Plus she's an emotional wreck so why bother.

Oh my God, I wish you saw the laugh that got from me. Well I didn't know that! In the US we don't use that term for a Meth addict, or if we do I have no idea as I'm not around that scene. But I've never heard it used in that context. Man that was funny though.

"Now she came and saw me yesterday and she had hickys all over her neck(Jenet arrgh).She said she'd given jenet them aswell.Now i still classifie that as cheating even though they were both trolleyed.Now im concerned that she actually had sex with some guy.Wouldnt surprise me seeing the way we met was both being drunk walking down the street at night and she pursued me into having sex with her in a near by park even though she had a boyfriend at the time."

If this part of your story doesn't give you the clarity you need, then I don't think anything anyone else says is going to help you. Either this is something you're going to have to put yourself through in order to become stronger (Since you're only 16, I imagine that's the case [side note: Why are 16 year olds getting drunk and having sex? ]) or you should see the light you're looking for in your own words.

Bra da same thing happened to me... Just alil different because we wernt actually together but we were talking and we were close enough not to hide or keep stuff frm each other but anyway I guess I was wrong. Well my pregnant baby moms let sum gay eat er out! Now I don't know know if that makes my baby moms gay too or what I don't know.. But you shuldnt be mad at you girl nahmean at 1st I was because she didn't tell me I had to fing out myself. But now I'm tappin both of them lol real talk so if you girl slept with janet who cares... Cause no girl can satisfie another girl like a man can so if I was you I'll da dog out of her so damn good lol and let her know who's daddy you feel me playa?

.. lol. This is how NOT to help.