OK so this is going to be tough but here it goes.

My girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me 2 days ago. Im 25 and she is 23 going on 24.

we had the best relationship you could think of. Our honey moon phase lasted 1.5 years. We were abosoultly head over heels for each other. She eventually had problems with me and my friends. She didn't like them because she thought they were bringing girls around. I would never cheat I loved her way too much. So 3-4 weeks ago we break up for first time. I'm completely devastated. She says I'm not what she needs right now and she sorry for very hurting me and blah blah blah. I know she is a good person deep down and she never wanted to hurt me. But it seems she just wanted other things from her life. So few days go by and I text her cause she is a vet tech and my cat has asthma. I bring him in and we talk and everything seems cool. We agree to talk next week when emotions have calmed a bit to get closure. By the way she broke up with me like this:

Saturday she is very upset not knowing wheather to let me go. We are both emotional. She hates my best bfriend and his gf( her cousin) because of this little tiff they had blah blah. She doesn't want me to hang with him anymore cause he called her some names. He was drunk and sorry. She is stubborn and it done with hanging with them. My ex doesn't have friends she's very alone in that area. She has hard time smaking new friends. She is annoying I guess I don't know but she is a brat. Anyway, she says I love u and it I want you no matter what. She didn't want me to have to change my life and friends for her. I know now that she didn't want that to happen of she wasn't sure she loved me.

so Monday she wants a break. I agree, was very hard. That night she goes to single on her Facebook. I text her nasty text about how some break we had you and all that. So week goes see her at the vet and now e come to our closure talk .

we spent the day talking about the problems and her frustrations. She said I never listened to her converens. Which was don't go out with your friends stay with me. She got a lot of aniexty from it. So she just wasn't happy. And that I treated her like gold. I sacrificed friendships for her. She was just a brat who didn't get her way. Very clingy. So we go shopping go to her pool. She gives me random long hugs and then kisses me at the pool. She says sorry and honestly I didn't know what to do I just spent the week dying and trying to accept she is gone. We drive home and she says lets work it out I love u so much. Then hour later she says if this is going to work I want to be truthful. During the week we were broken up she slept with someone. I felt like a tornado had punche dme in the stomach. I thought long and hard. And she promiesd her feelings were true . So I took her back and was to move past it all.

the next 2 weeks were amazing. At least I thought. It was like honey moon all over again. Laughing, hanigng, and great sex. Then she wants to go to her sisters for lunch on Sunday. I say OK ill see you later. Now they guy she slept with is best friends with her sister and boyfriend. She texted me hey its not lunch I'm on sisters boyfriend boat and chilling. She assured me he wasn't there. Then she says hours later I think I'm going to sleep over I'm having fun with my sister. They had been fighting bcause o the bull that happened where I almost punched her boyfriend so now she hates me. So she doesn't answer my calls at night and in the morning she says we need to break up I'm not happy anymore. I said fine I'm coming over through I want a face to face talk and an explnation why u screwed me over this last 2 weeks. She didn't want me to come but I did anyway.

So bascially she wasn't in love with me anymore. She lvoes me but not in love with me. Se wants to be with this other guy, who was there that day! She said she didn't hook up with him though. Which I don't believe. I made her promise and asked a 100 times to try and get a read on her face. Honeslty, I don't know if she is telling the truth. She was way more cold this break up way more , certain, of it. Then again if I think about it, she's right. Her only friend was her sister. She hated me. So we could nevr go doen there to hang. Not mention that guy she slept with was there so that's a no go. She hates my friends and my friends hate her. So there goes that. All we had was each other. She wanted a different life where she could have fun and be with people. I get it. But she is so selfish in the way she acts. Its always about her. I sacrificed my best friend who I may never talk to now again. I spent all my money on her making her happy. Why did she go bac out with me, admitteing she slept with someone and then OK 2 weeks later no good. Like what! I was ready to not see her the first time and she roped me back in. was that cause of guilt? She sais when they hooke dup she was just thinking of me and he wasn't even fun to be around. But now your leaving me for him? Girls are nuts man what the hell goes through there minds.

well that's my story pretty much. She ripped my heart of through my mouth. Then 2 weeks later through my . She tried giving me a hug our last talk and I said no get away I hope you never are happy and that was the last words I spoke. In a couple of weeks I want to write a letter stating my tru feelings, not to get her back but to let her know that there is no hard feelings. The more I read on these forums the more I realize it might just not have been meant to be. But it hurts so bad. I'm back at the starting line. I could have been 3-4 weeks into this hell, but now I'm in day 2.

is there anyone with advice? Insight as to her behavior? She said she would want to be friends but she understands if I hate her. I do hate her right now but she was very important in my life and I want to get to a stage where I can appreciate the time and love and not dwell and hate on it. She was my best best friend and I don't have that anymore.

Help!

Well she's still your best friend just not girl friend and if she broke up with you that's what was supposed to happen and you can forget about her by getting another girlfriend!!