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    Jan 7, 2012, 07:48 PM
    Girlfriend broke up, needs space
    All right.. So my girlfriend and I agreed to "take a break and try again later". She said that we don't talk or laughed much, and that she needs more excitement. She says she needs her space, which I have never had to go through before. She says she "possibly wants to get back together, but not 100% sure we're right for each other"

    1. She needs space. I need advice and support to give her that. I've bugged her twice, unfortunately. And I think it's annoyed her.. I have no idea what to do! I'm going crazy, I really need help in this area.

    2. Is it bad if she's might be seeing new guys? I have a suspicion that she's hanging out and talking with other guys. We agreed to tell each other if we meet someone, but I'm scared about losing her to another man. Any advice here?

    3. How long might it be before she talks to me? And does anyone think we will be together again? I love her like crazy, and I couldn't bear to lose her. I'm willing to wait, I just want to make sure I'm not wasting my time. In the mean time, what should I do to keep busy and stay sane while giving her space?

    Thanks for all your answers. I am so lost as this is my first serious girlfriend, and I've never had to experience "taking a break", so I could really use some pointers
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    Jan 7, 2012, 09:59 PM
    Usually when they ask for a break, you can consider it's over. The break is either because they want to date someone else and they want you around just in case it doesn't work out or it's because they want to break up and just can't tell you.

    You are probably wasting your time waiting around and hoping she'll come back. Best thing for you is to give up on her and move on.
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    Jan 9, 2012, 04:39 PM
    She asked for a break and isn't sure about how long it lasts, or when she will be back, or what she will do in the meantime.

    A break is a break up, and you don't wait in limbo until she may decide to come back. You disappear from her life permanently and move on.

    Because she can't make up her mind doesn't mean you can't make up yours. So feel free to move on and do your thing and explore all your other options and opportunities that you please.

    That's what she will do. Leave her alone no matter what kind of spin to relieve her guilt she may come up with. Don't fall for it. Just look forward to the second romance. It will happen, and you will be wiser for this experience.
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