Hey everyone,
I'm 20 years old I was with my ex for going on 3 years, she was my whole world, I distanced myself from everyone left my family aside to be with her family and to be with her. I asked her to marry me 2 years ago I knew she was the one for me, we you used to talk about starting a family and everything. Then two weeks ago a curve ball was thrown at me she told me she was unhappy cause she wasn't able to go out and enjoy herself. And that I kept her to myself and didn't allow her to go out. And her mom is old fashion and said that if she has a boyfriend she shouldn't be going out and partying without me. But I'm a stay home type guy. I would buy her anything she wanted coach, new watches whatever she wanted she got. Everyone says I was the best thing to happen to her, and I spoiled her rotten. She broke up with me 3 times previous before. And Ive always taken her back and everything. I had a little insecure issues myself because of the previous break ups. She's threaten to change her number and everything, I don't know what more to do with myself. I thought she was going to be there through everything with me. She has friends telling her lets go clubbing and I know friends have influenced her through most of it, but she denies it. I gave the girl the world her family is upset that she broke up with me because she says she will never find a guy like me. But my ex still sticks with her decision and wants to go and enjoy the single life she said she's happier now. And she was unhappy with me because I held her back. Please help me. I don't know what else to do with myself. I constantly call her if I see pictures of her going out. I'm hurt I don't want to see her with another guy. She was the one for me.

Sorry guy but you smothered her to death, and despite what everyone has said to her, she chose to be free, and do her thing. That's understandable now she has grown more independent of her family and YOU, and wants to explore this new world she finds herself in.

You must accept her feelings, and leave her alone, and focus instead on getting over your past issues, and rebuilding the ties you broke to focus only on her. No amount of talking, or begging will bring her back, and not all the gifts in the world, will change her mind, so really you have no choice but, to bow out gracefully, and leave her alone, because her mind is made up, and here on in she will hate you for not respecting her wishes. So you may as well keep your dignity, and self respect, by leaving her, and her family completely alone as she is not the home body that you are, nor does she have to be.

You have a big job ahead getting a life that you enjoy back, since you have neglected a large part of other areas of your life catering to her. Do so now, by letting her go and finding what your about without her.

but she still texts me, and everything. She texts me this mornign asking me why I wasn't at school. She makes it diffecult like she wants to have best of both worlds. I would buyer her stuff randomly stuff she would say she wish she had. And I could afford it. And it made her happy that's why I would spoil her the wau I did. But all of a sudden out of no where she broke up with me, the week before she told me I was her everything and wanted to have a baby and then she left.

As hard as it seems the relationship with this girl is over, you cannot buy love or peoples affections and no matter how much you spoil her and lavish gifts on her if she doesn't want the relationship anymore then she's not going to be in it.

You need to go No Contact and get over this girl, she won't respect you or want anything by way of a relationship if you hang around like a love sick puppy.

Its hard and hurts but when its over its over and nothing you do will change that. Please go NC and heal. You'll find details about NC in the stickies.

Yes your right she gets the best of both worlds and keeps you around because false hope stops you from keeping your dignity and self respect, by allowing her to treat you any way she feels like it.

You were dumped, act like it, and disappear from her life.

She's told you that she's happier without you, so you really have no choice except to move on without her.

It does sound like you treated her great in some respects, but literally smothered the life out of her. You may want to tone that down in your next relationship.