hello, I normally don't write posts and stuff on the internet but tonight was one of worst nights I've ever had. The past 2-4 weeks me and my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years have been kind of on the outs. I mean, we would kiss at most, nothing intimate and we would talk and I could just tell that she didn't feel the same for me anymore. Knowing this, I tried everything I could to win her "love" back. I mean everything, taking her out for dinner, trying to really vent to her about what's going on as she never really told me. We have been so close since the beginning of the relationship. We loved each other so much and it hurts me to even type this right now as we both had talked of moving in together and just telling each other we were in love so much and nothing would ever change that. I know it may sound typical, but I'm 20 years old and been dating her since 17 and she is now 19. Im feeling completley awful right now. We would do everything together, and I love her so much. Everything reminds me of her, and I feel like I'm losing control of myself because it was just so friggen random. I mean, we've had previous fights which have gotten pretty bad but this was in the past. Im so sad and lonely right now I feel helpless, Im not a weak man either, I rarley shed a tear and this has torn me into two pieces, I can hardley eat or sleep. I will continue praying and hoping for the best. :(

I'm not sure how to answer this since I'm new here, but I we are both in a very similar scenario. Never really freely expose my emotions on the internet. Both 2 1/2 years in the relationship, full of rainbows and the occasional thunderstorm, but now its ended cause of a falling out. Except in my situation we are physically continents apart.
I know how you feel, whenever I see billboards they remind me of her, songs remind me of her (especially "our" songs oh god), movies (that we watched together) that people randomly talk about remind me of her.

Its nice in a twisted way to know I'm not the only one going through this kind of ****.
Hang in there, its been 3 days for me now and it IS better than the first. I know it feels like it's the end of your world, just try to hang on a few days. It will get better, even if its minuscule, but its still an improvement. Sorry if I'm not very helpful cause I'm new to this. My first heartbreak.

Thanks for replying.. yea I guess we really are in a similar situation, I hope by 3 days ill be feeling a little better myself but it feels like it will never happen. Just like you send anything songs/movies everything. Man its so hard, it hurts sobad

To both serenemeadow and grizz406 I too am in a similar situation. As you will find on this site many people are in the same situation. That's what I think makes this site so great, we are all feeling the same emotions and can relate to each other to help pick up the pieces of our shattered hearts.
Today is 2 months since my girlfriend broke up with me, and we were the same dated about 2 1/2 years planned on marriage, living together the whole 9 yards. Then a week after seeing me last she said she was unhappy but didn't know why and also said she had been unhappy for about year (seemed like a cop out because she never gave signs of being unhappy). All I can say is it does get easier, each day you'll feel stronger. Eventually ull stop crying and feeling depressed and you won't even realize it. Stay busy and truly get active, exercise, start a new project, anything to keep your mind busy.
Today was a tough day for myself I have gone 3 full weeks now of NC and my ex contacted me out of the blue. It hurts because I want to respond but know it would bring more pain. If you haven't started NC yet make sure you do it will allow you to heal that much faster.

Hey guys I'm in the same boat with you guys too , I broke up with my GF before three month ago , and we were together for one year, so man I move on , and what really helped me is not listen to love songs , make myself bussy , yesterday her girl friend told me that she is still love with me , and if I want to come back the door is open for me , but I ran after her coupel of times ago , after we had such huge fight , but I suddenly stop , because I said this is not me , I'm not a dog to run after her every single time , so I move on , her memories with her still kills me , I even had nightmares about her , but I stop in emotions and no love songs , and I feel better , so man cheer yoruself up you are not in this world alone who is feeling pain , man girls these days I don' t know what they want , for loving them so much we are about to give up our life for them but they don't understand nothing , I don't know what they really want , so man move on with your life and I'm sorry what happened with you , I mean all of us , we are good guys , but we got hurt , but we can move on with this pain , I would say ignore her , and move on with your life , no phone calls no text , even if she send you one , don't replay , trust me she going to come back again , and tell you something that all girls does when they break up with guys , she will ask you , to be friends ,because man girls they feel bad doubel us when they break up with guys , so she don't want to loose you in both ways , as love or as friend so don't agree , stay strong , don't please say no , you have to forget about her , if she come back and tell you I'm sorry and she love you so much , tell her I'm not roboat I'm human , so quite playing , and it's your choice to choose at that time , but in this main time , I would tell you to burn her pictures her text message on the phone , every thing about her , don't call her or talk to her, and no love songs, stay away every thing that is reminding you to her , do any kind sport you like, you have to make your time full , because man any space or free time , it will remind you of her , and find some one of you trust a lot , to talk about this issue , talking to some one you trust and under stand you , it will make you feel relax a lot, do what I told you man , and be strong , she will not shut down your world , you can shut down your own world with your own hands, our ex girl friends won't kill us, peace

I can feel you man, we gave our lives to these girls and they just stopped feeling for us. Yes she wants to be friends with me, but its just hurting me. I've cut off all communication and it feels like hell. I don't hate the memories, but I hate remembering them.

I know man, wish we could talk in real life rather then on a computer but we feel exactly the same way. Im so hurt inside it I think about death a lot and I feel like I'm shock still. I only have a few characters remaining but if you want to talk further

Email me at [email protected] id be happy to talk this out. Its tearing me apart I feel like I'm going nuts. I feel you bro. F*** this man.

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