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sandeep04 · Jul 6, 2012, 06:04 PM

Hi All,

I broke up with my Girl last week after 4 years close to 5 years of relationship. The mistake was with me.. I did not know them importance of her till I lost her... I had a gambling problem and she tried to get me out of it.. and it dragged up to last 1 year now I am out of it I am having tough time to forget her. She is totally frustrated and angry with me.. when ever I am trying to contact her via phone or message she is yelling at me she is so frustrated.. I admit the mistake but its too late I guess.. she gave me changes to get back to me.. she says that the person whom I used to love is dead.. Its kind of hard for me to live.. I always seen in movies etc how much pain one has when they loose loved ones.. day in day out what ever I do I am having her memories all over me.. I am going into depression.. I love her so much I don't know what to do.. I'm trying to explain her but she is so much frustrated.. angry.. I can see that in her talks.. I'm not sure what should I do.. I am not able to control my emotions I'm 27 and its becoming tough day by day.. Please help me WHAT SHOULD I DO.. I want to live my life with her.. the more I want to talk to her the more she is going away :( Now she says she is with SOMEONE I don't know who is that someone or is she just lyin.. IT HURTS

Genis · Jul 7, 2012, 08:21 PM

Originally Posted by sandeep04

Hi All,

I broke up with my Girl last week after 4 years close to 5 years of relationship. The mistake was with me .. i did not know them importance of her till i lost her... I had a gambling problem and she tried to get me out of it ..and it dragged upto last 1 year now i am out of it i am having tough time to forget her. She is totally frustrated and angry with me ..when ever i am trying to contact her via phone or message she is yelling at me she is so frustrated ..I admit the mistake but its too late i guess ..she gave me changes to get back to me ..she says that the person whom i used to love is dead ..Its kind of hard for me to live ..i always seen in movies etc how much pain one has when they loose loved ones.. day in day out what ever i do i am having her memories all over me ..i am going into depression ..I love her so much i dont know what to do .. I'm trying to explain her but she is so much frustrated .. angry .. i can see that in her talks .. i'm not sure what should i do .. i am not able to control my emotions i'm 27 and its becoming tough day by day .. Please help me WHAT SHOULD I DO .. I want to live my life with her .. the more i want to talk to her the more she is going away :( Now she says she is with SOMEONE i dont know who is that someone or is she just lyin .. IT HURTS

Dear stranger,
Hello. I believe in a cycle of five loves. You see you are in this cycle. What is this cycle you may ask? Well it is fear, lies, hate, pain and help. Now, if I may quickly give an example of your life. It started with fear. You had a fear of giving up gambling, or even getting left by your girlfriend, maybe another fear, but it led you to lies. You began to either lie to her, lie to yourself, lie to people around you just lie, then hate took over. This hate can usually cause anger towards yourself, your friends and family, or your girlfriend; this anger leads to pain which is depression things of such, saddness, now you're here looking for help. Now this cycle is usually never ending there is only one way to break it; find worth. In my eyes love is worth; no matter what it is worth it. If your girlfriend is truly worth it you are going to break this cycle and you will find worth for her. You need to show her who you once were, and be yourself. You can't let the evils win. Please don't let love die; love can't die. Only fear and hate and lies and doubts ruin love. Love is like a fire it can go on for ages. So please don't give up. Sometimes you may think you've tried your hardest in a relationship but you're missing something; that is what you need to find. Now go and prove your girlfriend wrong, show her worth so that both of you can have happiness once again. Goodluck.

odinn7 · Jul 7, 2012, 08:25 PM

You broke up with her, made her life difficult, and she doesn't want to deal with you anymore. She has written you off and now it's time for you to move on and let her be.

I have to point out again... YOU broke up with HER. To me, that would mean that you wanted to break up... you know? I mean, I know I'm being a little over the top obvious here but you did break it off so what should that mean to her? I guess she got tired of it all and decided she could do better for herself. At this point, you just have to let go.

Alty · Jul 7, 2012, 08:27 PM

She's trying to move on, and yes, your relationship is over. She's likely telling you there's someone else just so you'll leave her alone.

She's trying to go to no contact. It's sad that it took breaking up for you to realize how much she means to you, sadly it's too late.

This didn't happen overnight. She's slowly been falling out of love with you, she gave you every chance, but it didn't work. Now she just wants to live her life, find happiness somewhere else. You should do the same.

Go no contact, work on fixing your issues, and move on. She's done.

swager1z · Feb 5, 2013, 07:51 PM

Never give up on her, let her know you are so much in love with her by texting her message , early in the morning and afternoon evening, tell her whatever you doing, explain your feelings to her even if she don't want to,she will come back to her sense and am sure you could have her back.

Alty · Feb 6, 2013, 02:05 PM

Originally Posted by swager1z

Never give up on her, let her know you are so much inlove with her by texting her message , early in the morning and afternoon evening, tell her whatever you doing, explain your feelings to her even if she dont want to,she will come back to her sense and am sure you could have her back.

You're actually telling him to stalk her? Do you think that's good advice?

You can't force someone to love you. They either do, or they don't. If you love someone, you should love them enough to respect their decision, and you should love them enough to let them go when they've told you they no longer love you.

Your advice will not only hurt the girl, it will hurt the poster as well, it won't allow him to move on, which is what he has to do.