Hey, It's limitlessteen17. Screw it, this is Harold and my best friend is Hanna.
So damn. I've been close to this girl since the beginning of high school. She is the first friend I met in this town. Hanna attracts all kinds of jerks and cheaters and what not. It's always bothered me since the start. I wanted to help her with it, and I have been ever since we met. Over the years, she and I have been growing so much closer. I'm that guy that's helped her through her hardest times and I'm her best guy friend and practically the last one she has left that she can trust. I've never given up on her through thick and thin. Hanna slowly but surely fell for me and now we're "In Love." I'm not saying it in quotes to emphasize that I'm not in love with her or her with me- we're still in high school, but we both know our love is deep and that it is in fact what love is. After months of kissing and cuddling and much foreplay, we're on that next step.. She wants to have sex. I grew up being taught to wait until marriage and to only have sex with the one you truly want (especially for your first time) and she has been taught the same.. I've wanted sex for awhile- not with her only, but in general. She has developed the desire for it after our relationship has grown much stronger and more intimate. Countless teens are having sex. Amounts younger than us and far, far less mature in various aspects. I believe we would be able to handle the responsibility of whatever may happen (relationship-wise) and consequences of pregnancy. I would love to keep this girl for as long as I can and for as long as she wants me (not like I wouldn't end up working and talking it out) Because I actually don't see her leaving. She's been with many jerks like I said and I'm sweet, and caring, and what she wants and she believes she wants me for an incredibly long time. Is it all right to have sex? We both want it and are responsible enough to handle what comes our way. Let me rephrase. We BELIEVE we will be able to handle what ever comes our way. We talked it over, and sex can't possibly affect our relationship in a negative manner unless something like a pregnancy comes into the picture. The relationship would grow even and remain intact. Can I- Hanna and I handle this? Keep in mind many others have had sex at a High School age and some even younger. Answers pleasee? :]

you guys sounds like 2 people with a good head on your shoulders, its nice to see, but sex=pregnancy... no amount of contraception is 100% and like you said you think you guys could handle anything that comes your way UNLESS she got pregnant! I'm 23 and pregnant, been in a serious relationship a long now and me and my partner are already having problems!

its so so so hard! Sex= pregnancy, pregnancy=baby, baby=money and money=stress!! If your so sure you guys are going to be together forever then there's no rush! You CAN live without sex, especially if you've never had it and are not some kind of sex addict.

Your answer is definitely helping so much! Even if there would be protection, would it still be best to wait? Or take the chance? You know that feeling where sex just lingers in the back of your head when you are incredibly close to someone? It just lingers and teases you :/

I absolutely know what you mean! And that's why it something to look forward to in the future, keep things simple for now, your both going to experience so much together including sex so why do it all now and get it over with? Keep things interesting, I can almost guarantee a long lasting, loving relationship if you do!

Ahhh everything you advise is perfect! Let me explain more about me. No judging haha! I am one of those church kids who are as nice as possible to everyone, but I once was one of those "bad boys". Wanting sex and intimacy and what not. My mind is spinning at a million miles per hour and just aspects of my personality clash, making it so much harder to make the decision. But I definitely plan on listening to you:]! Is it fine to have the foreplay and just save sex for when it will seem so much more meaningful? Like can two at our age handle that? What if we try oral or just hands on? Sorry for lack of better terms..

What age are you both?

I'm seventeen (limitlessteen17) and she will be seventeen in about a month.

Yes,are you both 17?
Are you in the United States?

I'm asking because I think in some states the legal age of consent is 18.

As a general rule,I always think,when in doubt,don't-i.e.in your case as you feel the need to ask-wait until you're 100% sure.

You both sound like great people and I wish you the best of luck.

... I say, keep doing what your doing, its working for you both not having sex just yet, why complicate things. This "bad boy" stuff your talking about is all just being young and horny!

Both seventeen and in Cali.

Apparently you read minds hahaha. Young and horny is easily unmistakable in me. But thank you so sooo much for the advise thus far! I hope you can add me as a friend or something on this website so we can keep in touch and you can be my advise buddy!

I mean it would mean a lot and help a lot:]

I think because you just joined you need to be on this a bit longer to have the option to add people as friends and also send private messages because I can't see how to add you on your profile, if you can figure it out that's not a problem, I'm happy to help

Alrightt awesome well are you on here often? Say I'm having a day like this and need advice. Would you probably be on?

Anyway thank you so much for your help tonightt. I need to go to bed. It's five a.m. :/ spring break is killing my sleeping schedule haha. Thank You!:]

Yea I'm on most days, there are loads and loads of cool people on here that will also help and are very wise, most of us a straight talkers and don't talk BS! Stick around and give others your own input to problems and stuff based on your own knowledge and experience, it's a great site to be part of and il check every so often to see if I can add you...

Old guy to young guy,

Don't be in a hurry to complicate this relationship, or your lives with sex, and protect your partner until you really are able to handle the consequences to you both. Emotionally, and physically.

Young hormones teases us all, and fools us into some very bad choices, and can really screw up a bright future in a hurry. Above all let others make their own choices, and live with their own decisions. Make your own, according to yourself, and not because everyone else is doing it. That's a lousy excuse for bad judgment.