Hey guys, I'm really confused right now due to a number of reasons but one of them is over a girl. Some people say relationships are nothing but a nuisance therefore you shouldn't even bother getting too deep, (im 16 btw). I on the other hand believe that relationships bring out the best in people especially relationships that take time. By that I mean, when two people like each other, it doesn't just happen, for me it took 3 months for us to finally give in and realize that we really like each other. That was during the months of April, may and June. During the summer we dated, kissed, hugged normal teen relationships and we didn't have sex. We weren't ready, but we did do sexual things to each other, but it wasn't forced both of us enjoyed it. But suddenly, we broke up. Of course, I was devastated, I really liked her.
So during the month of August we barely spoke to each other, but right before school started around first week of septemeber we became really close. Started flirting again and my feeligns came back. During the duration of October and November, we really flirted and we even kissed. We kissed on a daily basis, not just a peck, but she put her arms around me and I put my hands on her wraist and we kissed. We are not together by the way, but everyone things we are because we are really close to each other. But I knew, both of us knew that everything is confusing, we don't even know wahts confusign but its just confusing. I asked her to go out with me again, I even put thought into, I left notes for her so she can find it. She never answered but I knew it was sudden so I gave her time
So one night I asked "what are your true feelings for me?"
the words she said were "i dont know" of course after the words said and actions done I got a little mad, my reasons were that she kissed me, she said you missed me, and now she's telling me this. We got into an argument and the next day she says "I really dont know what came over me last night, I didnt mean it, but I am confused and i do miss you, thats the truth"
So after a few days everything calmed down but we did have a talk and I said "look i do miss you and i like you, ive been through hell and back for you, and no im just not in this for sex, if i was then i wouldve grabbed the next slut but no i fell for your personality and by bonus your looks, please give me an answer if you want me to forget you in a way that i like you, but i will never forget you as a friend"
her answer was " i dotn want you to forget, i can't lie to myself anymore thinking that i dont miss you because i really do"
I asked 5x if she meant it, 5x and all 5x she said yes she does miss me.
Another talk occurred and I asked her "its been 4 months of waiting. I do like you but I do have a limit, I don't want to force you into anything, that's the last thing I want to do but you told me you missed me and you liked me yet you have answered the question of going out with me, I can't let you do what you did and make me wait for four months and say the words "its been 4 months of waiting. I do like you but i do have a limit, I dont want to force you into anything, thats the last thing i wanna do but you told me you missed me and you liked me yet you have answered the question of going out with me, I can't let you do what you did and make me wait for four months and say the words " I need an answer" and she said " i need an answer" and I said " I will"
I guess its not really a question but I do want an opinion, if any of you are able to share your opinion please do. Thank you.

You are 16? I am 70; quite a difference, don't you think.
I was married 30 years, my wife died of smoking cigarettes, bad lungs; that was 6 yrs ago. A relationship is based on trust, faith, respect and sharing talking about everything. When one gets to that point, it just might be a permanent relationship. Both of you don't really know what you want; or at least she doesn't yet.
Give her time, but in the meantime, look around and talk with other girls. You just might find someone who feels the same as you, about everything. I do wish you the best of luck, and hang in there.

Yes aha, I am 16. Ive had fair share of relationships but this one is different. I trust her, I put my faith in her when she went to the beach with her girlfriend for a week and not come home with news that she found another guy instead she called me during just to say she missed me. We shared our personal stories and never judged instead we accepted it and laughed about some.
Actually there was girl, her and I talked for a bit and I got her number. TUrns out that my ex that I miss SO MUCH got jealous. So I did look around but she is different she's not another girl, she's one that I can remember throughout time. Im 16 and I know I'm not going to marry this girl but I know I can have a long lasting and meaningful relationship with this girl.
But do you think I have chance with her? I mean we made mistakes but that's the thing both of us talk to each other a lot that we talk through it and emerge out the situation better than before. We've had two arguments throughout 2 months that was really really heated kind of argument. And we emerged better than before.