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    ajr2295 Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 23, 2008, 05:33 PM
    I feel like an idiot - a very confused idiot.
    I'm in 7th grade, and there's this boy that I've liked since 4th grade. (I know, pathetic, isn't it?) My good friend at the time was absolutely convinced that I liked this other boy, and she wouldn't believe me when I said I didn't. So I told her that I liked this other boy, even though I didn't, and eventually it became true.
    In 4th grade we were actually friends. Me and my two friends would sit across from him and his two friends at lunch, mainly I think because we were forced to sit with our class in elementary school. But still, there were two really long lunch tables for each class. We would talk to each other during class (when we were allowed to; we both hate getting in trouble) and shared a lot of good laughs together. It was completely awesome!
    But like all good things, that eventually ended. Figures.
    In 5th grade, two "friends" of mine (at least I thought they were friends) knew that i liked him and ran up to him numerous times one day during recess, and asking him, "Do you like A***?" He apparently replied, "I don't know. Quit asking me that!" and his face turned bright red. Of course, I was nowhere near them at the time so I just know what I was told by my so-called-friends. It was really quite embarrassing.
    My dad had set up a chat room for me and my friends off of his website, and only people I told about it could access it. I had asked my best friend to give him a note telling him how to get to it and that I had something to tell him that night.
    So I went on the computer, and he was there, and I could see what he was typing but he couldn't see what I was typing, but eventually we got it to work and I apologized for what my "friends" had done. He said it was no big deal, and they weren't some of his favorite people anyways.
    THEN in 6th grade, my dad's girlfriend's daughter found out that I liked him. I was calling him with a question about band, and she stole the phone from me, whacked against my desk a few times, and said, "Hello, I'm a friend of A***, and I just wanted to tell you that she has a HUGE crush on you! Bye!" and gave the phone back to me. What was I supposed to do? I apologized, he said okay, and we hung up. Nightmare. He was in my French class, my REACH class, gym class, and band last year - very awkward from that point on.
    And finally, this year, he's in all the same classes with me that we had together last year. Every once in a while I'll turn around during band (he plays percussion, so he's in the back) and catch him glancing at me. He automatically turns away. And sometimes in French class I catch him looking at me (and I'm positive that it's me he's looking at because the French room is much smaller than the band room, with less people) and sometimes he doesn't look away - I do first. Like today I caught him with the side of his head on his binders, facing me, with a slightly "dreamy" look on his face.

    I feel very, very, stupid about everything I have done that involves him in the past 4 years, and I was wondering if anybody had any ideas as to what I should do now. I wish things weren't so awkward like they are now, but I know that it's entirely my fault. I know so much about him (no, I'm NOT a stalker) and we have SO MUCH in common. Everything from grades to classes to pets to band & wind ensemble - I don't know what to do. :(
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    Jan 23, 2008, 05:53 PM
    I think you oughta tell him in person.. and tell your friends to stop doing what they do because it might jeopardize the whole thing. From the looks of it now you definitely got his attention - he may not have feelings for you yet, but I think you're pretty much on his mind right now, and that's probably a good thing.
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    Jan 23, 2008, 06:01 PM
    Well, just IM him and have a friendly conversation. Talk about these common things and keep in good touch. Who knows where you off to in the near future. Though don't EVER drop school, cause it's one ticket out of a mess that you wouldn't want to get into.
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    Jan 23, 2008, 06:03 PM
    Well that is a very tricky thing. Wow... I can totally understand how you feel. Well maybe if you like him you should ask him out because well sometimes best friends who have a lot in common get along with them, but if he is a very special friend to you I wouldent really recommend it because once you have been in a relationship with someone it's usually ruined forever... things just aren't always the same when your heart is put into something as strong as a relationship. And also sometimes people who have absolutely nothing in common get along too because they have more to learn about each other. If you want you can add me to msn... it's: [email protected] Hopefuly we will talk again and I hope you can sort this out and remember, it's not your fault if it turns out bad.
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    Jan 23, 2008, 06:11 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ajr2295
    I'm in 7th grade, and there's this boy that I've liked since 4th grade. (I know, pathetic, isn't it?) My good friend at the time was absolutely convinced that I liked this other boy, and she wouldn't believe me when I said I didn't. So I told her that I liked this other boy, even though I didn't, and eventually it became true.
    In 4th grade we were actually friends. Me and my two friends would sit across from him and his two friends at lunch, mainly I think because we were forced to sit with our class in elementary school. But still, there were two really long lunch tables for each class. We would talk to each other during class (when we were allowed to; we both hate getting in trouble) and shared a lot of good laughs together. It was completely awesome!
    But like all good things, that eventually ended. Figures.
    In 5th grade, two "friends" of mine (at least I thought they were friends) knew that i liked him and ran up to him numerous times one day during recess, and asking him, "Do you like A***?" He apparently replied, "I don't know. Quit asking me that!" and his face turned bright red. Of course, I was nowhere near them at the time so I just know what I was told by my so-called-friends. It was really quite embarrassing.
    My dad had set up a chat room for me and my friends off of his website, and only people I told about it could access it. I had asked my best friend to give him a note telling him how to get to it and that I had something to tell him that night.
    So I went on the computer, and he was there, and I could see what he was typing but he couldn't see what I was typing, but eventually we got it to work and I apologized for what my "friends" had done. He said it was no big deal, and they weren't some of his favorite people anyways.
    THEN in 6th grade, my dad's girlfriend's daughter found out that I liked him. I was calling him with a question about band, and she stole the phone from me, whacked against my desk a few times, and said, "Hello, I'm a friend of A***, and I just wanted to tell you that she has a HUGE crush on you! Bye!" and gave the phone back to me. What was I supposed to do? I apologized, he said okay, and we hung up. Nightmare. He was in my French class, my REACH class, gym class, and band last year - very awkward from that point on.
    And finally, this year, he's in all the same classes with me that we had together last year. Every once in a while I'll turn around during band (he plays percussion, so he's in the back) and catch him glancing at me. He automatically turns away. And sometimes in French class I catch him looking at me (and I'm positive that it's me he's looking at because the French room is much smaller than the band room, with less people) and sometimes he doesn't look away - I do first. Like today I caught him with the side of his head on his binders, facing me, with a slightly "dreamy" look on his face.

    I feel very, very, stupid about everything I have done that involves him in the past 4 years, and I was wondering if anybody had any ideas as to what I should do now. I wish things weren't so awkward like they are now, but I know that it's entirely my fault. I know so much about him (no, I'm NOT a stalker) and we have SO MUCH in common. Everything from grades to classes to pets to band & wind ensemble - I don't know what to do. :(
    I would say just tell him. If he was always looking at you you should go for it.
    Today I got a boyfriend because he liked me back so you never really know.
    And if he says okay awkward or like feels awkward the next day just say you were kidding and wanted to see what he would say back

    P.S Give him at least 3-4 days to decide if he likes you back...
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    Jan 23, 2008, 08:24 PM
    Awwwww This Is Soooo Cuuuuuteeeeeeee
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    Jan 24, 2008, 10:05 AM
    Aww Honey, I agree with the others... this is adorable.

    And, its all a part of growing up. It sounds like you and this boy have a great friendship... AND that he obviously doesn't mind it that people think you like him. (I'm struck again at how cute this is!)

    My advice to you? Tell him. Obviously, enough other people have told him... he may think that you don't and are embarrassed that people think you do. Invite him over for a movie (with the parents home, of course, you ARE in 7th grade) and just tell him. See what happens! He sounds like a great boy.

    By the way... you sound like a pretty smart cookie! I think this guy would be craaaazy not to go for you! :)

    Good luck, hon! :)
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    Sep 11, 2012, 06:23 PM
    Okay so this is my opinion on this. If you guys are like BEST FRIENDS then there shouldn't be any akward moments. If you catch him staring at you don't think of it as weird,think of it as sweet. If you want to tell him how you feel then write it in a note and give it to him yourself. It doesn't mean as much if your friend does it for you. He seems really shy so don't pressure him into telling you that he like you. Give him time. But not too much time because you have to eventually move on. Just don't think about the akwardness. Act as if none of that ever happened and eventually you will forget all about it. (: Gud luck!

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