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    May 21, 2013, 11:21 AM
    I feel jealous and suffer.
    Hi. I want to have your idea about my problem.
    I dated a guy 6 months ago who was so nice but there is a problem about him! Last year his ex girlfriend whom he had planned to marry left him alone and he's been depressed since then. As I told you we dated 6 months ago, but every moment I suffer because I think he is thinking to her and remembering her memories. I feel so jealous because I know how much he loved her, and loves her even now. :( I wanted him to be mine completely so I tried to be a good girlfriend for him through these 6 months but I got nowhere. He says he loves me but not as much as his love for her.

    I got hurt and just cut last night. I don't know if I did the right thing. Please help me I'm lost.
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    May 21, 2013, 11:48 AM
    "He says he loves me but not as much as his love for her..."

    Move on. He's not worth your time and he shouldn't be in another relationship if he can't move his life forward. Find someone else.
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    May 21, 2013, 11:53 AM
    You were only a band-aid and a rebound for him. Move on with your life. He certainly isn't worth suffering over and cutting yourself.
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    May 21, 2013, 02:18 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Oliver2011 View Post
    "He says he loves me but not as much as his love for her..."

    Move on. He's not worth your time and he shouldn't be in another relationship if he can't move his life forward. Find someone else.
    Thanks a lot dear you made me feel better :) but I feel pity for the time I wasted... ;(

    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    You were only a band-aid and a rebound for him. Move on with your life. He certainly isn't worth suffering over and cutting yourself.
    Thank you Wonder girl your advice going to be helpful cz. You're right... it's time to move on...
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    May 21, 2013, 02:38 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by angedeterre View Post
    Thank you Wonder girl your advice gonna be helpful cz. you're right...it's time to move on...
    Now, tell me what you will do to move on.
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    May 21, 2013, 03:49 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Now, tell me what you will do to move on.
    First I have to forget him and give up the idea that I can be a substitute... I have to be strong and focus on future and get out of it but it is sooo hard you know
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    May 22, 2013, 04:56 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by angedeterre View Post
    First I have to forget him and give up the idea that I can be a substitute... I have to be strong and focus on future and get out of it but it is sooo hard you know
    You know how to do that right? Fill your time with fun stuff, activities, movie night with a girlfriend, exercise, etc. The less idle time you have, the less and less time you will be thinking about him. The more you keep your mind active, the faster you will move your life forward.
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    May 22, 2013, 11:14 AM
    I love him so much... I love his personality and nice behaviour... wish I were his beloved... what a pity :( :( :(
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    May 22, 2013, 11:44 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by angedeterre View Post
    I love him so much...I love his personality and nice behaviour...wish i were his beloved...what a pity ;( ;( ;(
    No, no, no. Let's rephrase that. Say that in a way to show us you are moving forward, and not being stuck and spinning your wheels.
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    May 22, 2013, 02:52 PM
    I'm trying hard... I will do it.I promise.I will get better
    Thanks every one :*
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