Hey, Im new to this, so not sure what 2 expect. =)
I'm only 19-so I know that seems a bit young to be having such a mega relationship issue lol, but its my ex boyfriend (I'll call him 'chris' in the story lol)! We started going out when I was 15, he was 16, we were proper childhood sweethearts, we wouldn't go anywhere without each other and everyone thought we were the cutest couple ever. But he's an only child and his mom neva liked me, I tried SO hard, but she drove a wedge in between us, and at 15 I didn't no hw 2 handle that, we stayed together for around 2 and a half years, on and off, but eventually it was me hu totally messed up.

My manager at work had a bit of a thing for me, and I'll admit I didn't clock on at first, I used to be a little naïve like that, but between 'chris' , his mom and my manager, our relationship got worse, chris started drinking and there were some REALLY dark times in our relationship, n I'm not going to make ne excuses, but eventually he drove me away, he wouldn't talk to me, he got angry for no reason, than he started to get violent and I'd always been able to calm him down, but I couldn't anymore!

We broke up in the end, I was devastated and it took me months to come 2 terms with the fact we were over, he used 2 get girls to phone me at 2am fakin an orgasm dwn the phone, even though it was him that dumped me!

A few months later, my manager made his move, I don't no y, I think it was a rebound thing, but we got 2getha and I must have been crazy because we went WAY to fast in a short amount of time, within a year we'd moved in 2getha and got engaged, but the whole time I was still textin my ex, nothing was going on but we were talking, he asked for me bk n I realised we had to stop talking, so we did for a couple of months, but I wasn't happy with my fiancé! Than he started cheating, and I knew I had to get out before I made a huge mistake!!

My ex (Chris) asked me 2 meet up when he found out id split with my fiancé, chris told me he had a new girlfriend, I was gutted but I pretended to be happy for him, but than he kissed me! This was about 6 months ago now, since than he has split with his girlfriend, bt the whole time he was with her he was textin me telling me I'm the one and that he'll neva love anotha girl like me! We still aren't 2getha nw but me and chris act like a couple, he comes to family parties with me, he picks me up from work, we have slept 2getha! =( which I no is stupid!! Bt I love him more than anybody in the wrld, bt he says we wnt b gtin bk 2getha netym in the future, bt then in the next breath he's asking me 2 stay ova at his, or we'll cuddle up at his watching a film! His mom knows were talking agn, and I think he's more scared of telling her than anything, bt I don't no wt 2 do, he kps asking me 2 'wait 4 him', bt he's meeting up with other girls hu have asked him if they can b 'fuk buddys' :S I'm reali confused... I know deep dwn he loves me though!! HELPPPPPPPPPPP lol

Leave this guy alone. As it sounds like the only thing he wants from you is an easy booty call.

If all he wanted was a booty call, than why would he be coming 2 family parties, he spent all of christmas and new year helping me look after my 2yr old niece! He even brought her loads of prezzies!!

You are 19 years old, you really should type like one, if you want adult answers on adult issues you should want to present yourself as mature.

Furthermore you and your ex have many issues between you. He is not messing with your head as much as your are messing with your own head. Worry about who you are and develop yourself before you worry about repairing what was a very broken relationship. You may find out that you deserve more than what he can offer you.

Leave this guy alone because your being strung along. Having sex with him and hanging out with him is only confusing things and inteferring with you thinking clearly.

Your both have help each other cheat on their mates and now he wants you to wait and your willing to do so, why?

This cycle that your are doing with each other is unhealthy and only leads down the road to heartache.

Right now he's with someone but your unable to be with someone because your stuck on him, again why? Leave what your had in past unless your willing to spend the next few years like this.

If your wating for him to decide, he won't. Why would he when he's getting what he want and having his cake with sprinkles on top. You shouldn't be allowing this and should open your eyes and see what he for what he really is and wonder why you can't let go?

Does your whole life revolve around being someone's girlfriend? Obviously it does.

Have you expierenced any type of teenage life outside of a relationship? This is when you are supposed to find out who you are as an individual, not as someone's girlfriend.

I really don't see hw the way I type has anything 2 do with it :S

No I don't rely on being sumbody's girlfriend at all, I actually enjoy being single!! Its difficult because the old feelings are there and he lives 3 doors away from me, so he's pretty impossible to escape from.

He's not with his girlfriend anymore, they split up about 4 months ago, he said he couldn't be with her anymore because all he did was think about me. That's where I get confused, he's asking me 2 wait, but I don't no if I should, or if I do hw long 4! We went through a lot, I'm obviously not going to wait for him 4eva, bt I cnt give up on him after nearly 5 years

Read the stickies at the top of this forum about chat/text speak. It's not allowed, that is why we are saying to type like a mature person and not a child.

But, no you shouldn't wait for anyone. Tell me something, is this guy so great that he can give you back the past months you have waited for him? Didn't think so, that's months of your life you won't get back

Didn't really read the stickies to be honest, sorry! My internet don't really last long enough for me to browse through the topics on here. He may not be able to give me back the last few months, but he's been a part of them so I haven't really missed out on anything. He's my best mate, I just don't know if he'll ever be ready to give me another chance! Surely, SOME couples must get back together and it works =)

Get yourself back, then you can focus on a relationship... until then, no dice!

Not to be mean or anything but your be a fool if you sit around and wait on him. However if you got the time to waste than better you than me.