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AlMane · Sep 2, 2012, 08:28 PM

About a month ago my ex came clean to me that I wasn't her first. She kept that lie for three years! Because I lived her so much, I told her that everything will be okay and that we'll over come it and what not. Few days later she told me that she doesn't feel the same and wants to have a break for months. I refused and begged. Eventually I gave up and moved on.. We didn't talk for weeks. I found a new relationship. I then started to question a lot of things, of why she left me go so easy and did she love me or miss me? I sent her a long message telling her my unspoken words that I hate her so bad and that I still love her.. She told me that she has found someone as well... Now, I'm here thinking the same thing. How can she not miss me, want me, does she have memories of me, want him to be me, and what not. I shouldn't have messaged her because I've now opened a door and I miss her.. I want her back.. Before I hated her and didn't want her back.. Now I want her.. How can I move on? Is she good for me? Should I talk to her about us?

backpack2389 · Sep 2, 2012, 10:08 PM

Your ex built a relationship on a lie and then maintained that lie for three years... only to suddenly come out with the truth? It sounds to me like she felt, for whatever reason, that the relationship was at an end but was too cowardly to tell you. So, she made up this first guy or decided to finally tell you the truth about guy #1, figuring that it would make you break up with her. But, when that didn't happen, she just decided to leave.

At any rate, I think she really wanted out of the relationship. And, since it ended, you have each found other people and are in the process of moving on. Don't halt your progress by hanging yourself up on your ex. She's with someone else and so are you. Move on. "Love the one you're with." She left you. Don't miss her. I don't think she's missing you... at least not enough to come back.