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heartbreakkid13 · Jul 14, 2009, 11:42 PM

Kk so basically my ex girlfriend broke up with me 2 times I really do love her... but I've become really close to her friend and developed feelings for her but I still have feelings for my ex.. now the problem is her friend I have feelings for my best friend dated her and basically were not friends anymore because of this my ex now wants me back but she doesn't no that I've been with her friend and I don't plan on telling her the details... but to make a long storey short I have no clue who I should be with what I should do... any help?

Torrid13 · Jul 14, 2009, 11:50 PM

I'd forget both of them. Your ex broke up with you twice; that cycle's just going to keep going and going like the Energizer Bunny, and her friend you developed feelings for is with your best friend now (did I read that correctly?) and therefore is off-limits.

Just find someone else. This is a huge mess/heartache/slanderfest waiting to happen.

Alty · Jul 14, 2009, 11:51 PM

Move on to something else, this is too complicated.

Torrid13 · Jul 15, 2009, 12:10 AM

I'm glad it wasn't just me who was having a hard time understanding this! I was about to tell myself I can't drink grape soda past midnight anymore, it's getting to me...

Whew, luckily no such sacrifice was needed!

Gemini54 · Jul 15, 2009, 01:23 AM

Grape soda and the energizer bunny! Sounds interesting.

Anyway I have no clue either, why can't people punctuate?? (please)

You'll only break up with your Ex if you got back to her, and your best friend will hate you because you're seeing the girl he ditched, who will tell everybody that you've been seeing her, and your Ex will dump you (again) when she finds out.

I'd ditch both of them if it were me (and practice some punctuation).

kctiger · Jul 15, 2009, 05:29 AM

Women are drama enough without adding more fuel to the fire by dating their friends...

Find a new pond to fish in.

HistorianChick · Jul 15, 2009, 05:39 AM

Don't date your ex's best friend. Easy relationship rule #2.

artlady · Jul 15, 2009, 05:43 AM

I'm going to follow the crowd on this one and say,let them both go.

You are willing to be dishonest with your GF about her friend and in the long run,lying will come back to bite you in your nether regions.
This is a complicated mess and the only way out is by letting it die a natural death.

jjwoodhull · Jul 15, 2009, 05:44 AM

If I understand what you're saying - which I'm not sure I do - you should not be with either of these girls. Your ex broke up with you twice? And the other one is her friend and dated your ex? Time for you to meet new people.

I wish · Jul 15, 2009, 06:51 AM

There are too many obstacles for a healthy relationship.

1) You'll need to be completely over your ex before you can even consider her best friend.

2) Her best friend will initially consider you off limits, because "you're best friend's ex." If this comes between the two girls, it will only cause grief all around.

3) If you really decide to be with her best friend, you can't sneak around with her. Keeping it a secret will just backfire later on and cause mistrust between them.

4) Let's say magically, your ex is fine with the iea, your ex will know lots of details about your relationship and that could cause another rift between everyone.

5) Lastly, until your ex is ALSO completely over you, it will just cause her so much pain by dating her best friend.

Conclusion: Off limits. Find someone else.

heartbreakkid13 · Jul 15, 2009, 09:03 AM

K let me rephrase this sorry everybody it was late... my ex-girfriend broke up with me two times we haven't been dating for about a month now but still keep in contact daily... her best friend who had a thing with my best friend we have been sort of seeing each other but I told her how we would never work out anytime soon due to the fact we would have to keep everything a secret until my ex gets over me... the problem is id rather be with this girl rather then my ex but I'm not completely over her so I'm stuck in the middle and I don't want to choose who to be with... you guys said to forget both of them but that's hard to do like I really don't know what other choice I have.. im not going to tell my ex girlfriend I've been hooking up with her best friend.. and I'm not going to play both of them but that's sort of what's happening and I can't live with that...