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Phillyfan0254 · Aug 16, 2011, 11:02 PM

My ex who I dated for two years recently just broke up with her boyfriend who she dated after me. We broke up this past Halloween and we've always stayed in contact. Now that she is single again she has started to call/ text me a lot more. I love this girl and was heart broken. I want to get her back but I'm scared of moving in to fast and blowing my chances. I know she strongly has feelings for me but I don't know if she would ever get back with me. Our relationship ended on a sour note with a lot of fighting. How should I pursue her and get her to want me back? I have not yet aske or tried to hangout with her yet.

adviceishere · Aug 17, 2011, 03:53 AM

No ones making you move too fast, only you can control how you approach this.

Firstly, you need to give her time to get over her recent ex, you don't want to be a rebound do you?

Secondly, really think long and hard about why and how you broke up, there was a reason you didn't work first time round, why would it be different this time?

Thirdly, take it slow, there is no hurry, talk, text, get to know each other again if you're ready for this. Make a date, hangout and take it from there.

talaniman · Aug 17, 2011, 06:47 PM

You better be careful here guy, because its highly possible she doesn't want a relationship at all, just a friendly shoulder for her healing period.

What's really troubling, she leaves you, get another guy, then comes back your way. That's not a good sign, and while I have no doubt you both may have strong feelings for one another, when relationships fail, there is a reason, and until that is resolved, chances are the relationship will fail again.

You better really be careful with this one. You both need some healthy healing in my opinion.

anonymous11 · Aug 19, 2011, 01:00 PM

She may be one of those people that are terrified of being alone. I would proceed with caution and weight in on what were the factors that caused you two to break up in the first place. Can they be resolved this time around? If not, then you are just going in a big circle again.

Phillyfan0254 · Aug 22, 2011, 01:47 AM

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My ex girlfriend of two years recently broke up with her boyfriend who she dated for 6-7 months after me. When they broke I was the first person she called asking for advice. We talked and texted for the next few days until one night she saw me out with a girl I have been seeing very casually. The next day she texted telling me not to send her flirty texts if I with some other girl. I replied by saying I'm not with anyone And that it wasn't like I was sexting her. I haven't heard from her since and I do not know what to do. I really want to get her back but I know we need to work out our problems from before. Should I start texting her and see how she's doing? I'm really stuck here and need some good advice on how to get myself in the door. Thanks

BK201 · Aug 22, 2011, 03:07 AM

Suggest setting up a meeting and hear out. She must be devastated after a break up. Also, suggest providing her a supporting shoulder rather than approaching her immediately.

Phillyfan0254 · Aug 22, 2011, 05:41 AM

Ok so I sent my ex a love poem and sign it secret admirer and right away she guessed it was me. What should I do admit to it or deny?

amicon · Aug 22, 2011, 06:35 AM

She recently broke up with someone-she's not ready for another relationship until she's healed from her break up.

Obviously you don't deny having sent her the text-lying's never attractive;allow her to get over the ex and then see what happens.

And she's not going to be over him tomorrow,so meanwhile go live your own life.

BK201 · Aug 22, 2011, 09:58 AM

Admit it. You cannot deny it, she knows it is you. So, what are you planning to do?

talaniman · Aug 22, 2011, 03:39 PM

I don't think pushing her to take you back just because she just became single, is any way to go about this to be honest. At the risk of being her rebound, you may as well play this straight up and tell her exactly what you would like to see happen. But be prepared for whatever SHE wants to have happen.

And you don't have to make new questions about the same girl/situation, that's really confusing.