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    Ashh Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 29, 2007, 04:00 PM
    Ex Girl Friend using me ?
    Hi all

    My ex girl friend 20 years old and me 24 have been apart for about 10 months now. Lately I saw my ex in a party and we starting to chat online and sending sms to each other again. She seems interested again, she will sms with I miss You and all. We almost chat and send sms everyday asking how's each others day are like. In a level that I think its more than friends.

    Then I starting to ask her out again. So we had our first kind of date seen we broke up. Sometimes when I ask her out she will say she is going out with friend. She would't tell me who she with. Is she trying to make me jealous or something? I think she is dating other guys.

    I feel she is using my friendships and my care for her when ever she wants to. She is a emotional preson, she gets upset for very small things. Just a few days ago she's text me saying she's unhappy about something so I comfort her and she was feeling better.

    I don't know what she wants from me. Im just confused.
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    valinors_sorrow Posts: 2,927, Reputation: 653
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    Jan 29, 2007, 04:30 PM
    I don't know what to say here except they are called ex's for good reason? If whatever broke you two up the first time isn't addressed, if what you are doing isn't spoken of in crystal clear terms... then it just gets all kinds of weird doing what you're doing. And funny thing, here you are saying its weird. I would suggest you either improve your communication so there is a measure of trust between you or back off.
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    Nosnosna Posts: 434, Reputation: 103
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    Jan 29, 2007, 04:37 PM
    Defining relationships is (almost) always a good idea. When an old relationship starts back up in any way, this is even more important... it's far too easy to fall back into old habits without having the framework that makes them make sense if you don't have the limits and rules and such laid out clearly.

    It's likely that the two of you have different ideas about what the relationship currently is. If you don't get on the same page with that, somebody is going to get hurt.
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    Ashh Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 29, 2007, 09:33 PM
    Thanks for both of your replys. I think I just back off abit
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    talaniman Posts: 54,306, Reputation: 10854

    Jan 29, 2007, 10:09 PM
    I suggest you back way off and think long and hard at why you would be dating someone who you broke up with, and who is dating someone else.

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