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    chickie543 Posts: 74, Reputation: 25
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    Feb 24, 2010, 06:21 PM
    Moving on from your first love.
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    I need some advice. This was my first love ever.

    We were together for three years. He just broke up with me last Wednesday (one week ago). The reason he did is because he's going to be to busy soon and won't have anytime for me.. . and yeah! But yet 3days before the break up it was Valentines Day and he gave me a teddybear and chocolates. He tells me he still loves me and misses me and everything sweet. I know its best to stay away and sometimes its really hard. I barely believe its even true, because it was so random and sudden. Sometimes I will remember and get extremely upset. How do I accept it properly and MOVE ON??
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    Feb 24, 2010, 07:46 PM
    You're most likely still in shock as it's only been a week.

    Even though it seemed sudden to you,his feelings probably changed over a period.
    Go no contact-for more info,please read the stickies at the top of the relationship page.

    It hurts now,but in a while you will feel better and you will get over him.

    Time to be around friends and family and keep yourself busy.

    Take care.
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    Feb 24, 2010, 09:51 PM

    He probably has been thinking of breaking up, and moving on for quite some time before he told you. He was letting you down easy, so I guess you mourn your loss, and heal.

    Time to do your own thing without him, and ready the stickies at the beginning of this forum will help a lot.
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    Feb 27, 2010, 06:09 AM

    Thank you guys! I am staying NC, and living my life. I just try not to think about it or else I get upset
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    Mar 25, 2010, 07:59 AM
    Ex emailed me.
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    Hey everyone!

    Me again.. lol

    So my ex and I broke up in the middle of feb. We were together for 3 years. After the break up I deleted him from my Facebook,messenger, email, everything. I have started seeing someone lately, just dating. But he is a great guy! Honestly he has made me realize how bad my ex treated me :). So I know I will never go back to my ex.

    Well this morning I logged into my Facebook and guess who messaged me. The Ex.. he wrote this...

    "You were right all along. Money isnt everything at all, love is. I hope you understand that im just a human that screwed up and i just hope you read this aswell, iblinded myself trying to be succesfull and forgot what was all about. It wasa huge mistake but i hope pride doesnt take any place in any thought of you"


    He also sent a friend request. Should I write back I have no desire to get back in a relationship with you, or should I just ignore everything? Also in our 3 years together he has broken up with me 3-4 times ( I don't even remember, cause he been so many times) and each time he has done this and he doesn't stop. The only good thing is he is 2000 miles away.

    What do I do?? Don't worry be harsh

    p.s. great to hear when an ex says "you were right all along" hehe
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    Mar 25, 2010, 08:26 AM

    Why would you want him as a friend?
    Some people are best left in the past.
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    Mar 25, 2010, 08:31 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by amicon View Post
    Why would you want him as a friend?
    Some people are best left in the past.
    I don't want him as a friend. I was wondering if I should just message back something like please don't contact me. I know he will keep on trying to message me.
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    Mar 25, 2010, 09:10 AM

    Hopefully you're not out looking for another rebound: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ne-458410.html

    If you don't want to get back together, then block him out of site so that you can fully focus on healing.

    In the options section of your email, there should be a feature that allows you to block certain people from emailing you.

    Check out the NC related threads in my signature.
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    Mar 25, 2010, 09:12 AM

    I'd ignore it. No good will come of responding. Because he will respond to your response... and before you know it, you'll be caught up in an endless whirlpool of reaction and responses. That's not where you want to be.

    You're seeing someone new. Focus on that. Ignore the ex, block him from your FB, and keep your chin up.

    Some people are in your past because they couldn't make it in your present. :)
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    Mar 25, 2010, 10:19 AM

    I wouldn't respond at all, and please don't accept his friend request. He'll get the hint. Trust me.
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