My ex and I are 24 years old, we broke up half a year ago and our relationship lasted for about 3 years. I have heard from some mutual friends that he might be back with his ex girlfirned (whom he have dated for few months half a decade ago). I have just slowly recovered from my wounds, and now I have to experience yet another heartbreak after hearing this news. I don't know what to make of it. A part of me thinks that if he is back with his ex, it means he never got over them while we were together. The other half of me feels that I was used by him as he was waiting for something/someone better. He broke up with me stating that it's not the same anymore. I guess feelings sorted faded as it has been too long. What does it mean when people go back to their exes once they get out of a relationship? His relationship lasted with her for about 3 months as opposed to my relationship with him which lasted for almost 3 years. How can he move on like this and not even try to work things out. How could he move on so quickly, and to one of his ex. I'm really confused. Please help. I don't know what to think or do anymore. I'm losing focus, I feel hurt and neglected.

He could be back with his ex just for sex,he could have met her in the super market and people seen them together and told you,u no chinese whispers don't you,well ask him yourself that's the only way to get the awnser you want.most men don't get their hearts broken like us,they think oh well ill just get on with it,theirs only afew that'll sit down and cry about it,men move on a lot quicker than we do.it was 6months ago hun,I no your hurt and you probably still av feelins for him I no how you feel I'm the same age and bin through the same thing,I picked myself up dusted myself down and got on with it theirs no point draggin yourself round and making yourself feel worse.and if he wanted to sort things out hun he would have bin round to you a lot sooner its bin 6months and it doesn't sound like he's going to be coming round to sort things out the dust mite have settled for him and he's trying to get on with things I think you should do the same before you end up making yourself depressed

Chances are, he's with her for the wrong reasons. He may just miss having someone with him, so in reality, he's really with her because he misses you.

He didn't move on, he's just trying hard... the wrong way.

My ex got with a new guy within 2 weeks after we broke up... and this is after 3 years of us being together. New guy... doesn't hold a candle to me in any way shape or form. Everyone knows it's a rebound and it's bound to fail.

... it kind of made me laugh a little.

Don't worry too much about it, just keep doing what you were doing. Keep your head up.

I agree with the latest post comment. He can be going back to his ex just for confort.

It's hard to say why your ex-boyfriend returned to his ex-girlfriend. They may be for the wrong reasons, but they may also be for the right ones. As much as this may hurt, but it could simply be that they ran into one another, realized they still had feelings for each other, and as a result decided they would try it again. However, the fact that he did get back with his ex doesn't mean he never got over her while you two were together. It also doesn't mean he was keeping you around until someone "better" came by. In all honesty, him being with his ex has absolutely nothing to do with you.

I know it hurts. Trust me, it literally took me a whole year to get over my first love. No lie, I was depressed from January to December (this was about 2 years ago). As much as it hurts, you simply need to accept the fact that its over. He has moved on and you should to. Stop gathering information about him and tell your friends that you no longer want to hear about what's going on in his life. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, and do things you love.

I promise you that with time you will find someone else who is even better. But before that can happen you need to regain your confidence and self-esteem. Consider the fact that he has moved on as his loss and your good fortune. You are young, single, and ready to mingle :) Stop being sad and enjoy life.

Given the advice you have received, in your other posts, though it hurts, its none of your business whom he is with, or what he does. Now maybe you can get refocused, on your own business and heal, and move on. Hate to be harsh, but is this really news??

Tal's right, you guys aren't together anymore, anything he does just doesn't matter, he is not in your life anymore... so whatever he does/thinks/wants, just doesn't matter... its hard to say that to yourself, but it helps me when I think about my ex and her new guy... it just doesn't freakin matter. Lol

IT makes me feel that I have wasted my time after 3 years.. it's a learning experience.. I know.. but I can't believe he moved on so quickly... it's very sad and I don't know how I'm going to cope with everything... At least now I know that I will never take him back ever and EVER!

Isn't it a bad thing to jump into another relationship so quickly? I don't get it. I'm hurt... and I just feel like it's unfair and it's cruel and it's inconsiderate.. I don't know how I am ever going to trust again..

In all honesty half a year is not considered to be "jumping into another relationship quickly." Seriously, 6 months is plenty of time for a lot of people to have healed and moved on from a failed relationship, even one that lasted 3 years. However, there are also a lot of people (like you and me) who still have a hard time moving on after 6 months, but that doesn't mean everyone else is like that.

As I mentioned earlier, there is no way of knowing why your ex-boyfriend went back to his ex-girlfriend. It may be for the wrong reasons or it may be the for the right ones. The bottom line though is that it doesn't matter. He is living his life and you should be living your life. Don't consume yourself in anger by thinking its cruel and inconsiderate. Please realize that this is part of life and with time this event will make you stronger. I promise you that someday you will be able to trust again.

You mentioned in one of your other posts that he was your first love, which unfortunately is always the hardest one. It took me a year to get over my first love and this was even after it was clear that she had moved on and started meeting other guys. However, as much as it hurt then I am happy now that it happened because I realized over time that I can do a lot better. After a lot of contemplation I decided that everyone needs to have their heart broken at least once. You can never know what true love is unless you go through the pain of heartbreak. Right now that's what you are going through but it will get easier and you will be a much better person because of it. Hang in there and don't give up.

I am trying my best! You know the feeling of heartbreak and thinking that nobody will ever love you if your ex didn't? Yeah it's just burning me inside. I can't sleep sometimes because my heart is so broken. I don't think love is fair, and I don't think it would ever be. Yes... I think it's hard because he is my first love. The only thing I don't understand is that he broke up with his ex before stating that she is annoyihng and needy. I just can't comphrehend why they are back together... it's just so weird how everything in the world can just flip around and change drastically...

It's not worth trying to comprehend why they are both back together. There is no point in trying to explain it because it will only bring you more pain. As hard as it is you just need to let it go.

Yes, I do know the feeling that nobody will ever love you if your ex didn't. I told my first love that I loved her but all she could say is "Wow, I don't know how to respond to that." However, just because she didn't love me doesn't mean someone in the future won't. Trust me, with time you will find someone who will love you and it will be great. But you just need to give it time and allow nature to take its course.

I know you are trying very hard to get through this heartbreak. I am not suggesting otherwise. I just want to try and help. Believe me, with time things will get better.

1. Never gotton over her
2. trying to fill your void
3. probably just CLOSE friends
4. trying to start where they left off.
Those are the only things that I can think of, I'm 27 and have seen some twilight zone stuff happen in my life.

I guess I'm just confused... I'm sure it won't matter in time.

1) never gotton over her: but I think my ex told me he finds his ex needy and annoying while I was in a relationship with him...
2) trying to fill your void: he doesn't like me anymore, but there is a possibiity he's bored
3) probably just CLOSE friends: I know they talk, and it's confirmed they are together
4) trying to start where they left off: If that was the case, I feel like I had wasted my time for the last 3 years of my life.

I am going through the same... thank you "confused25", your words helped me so much