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    Sunnydgirl Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 2, 2012, 10:11 AM
    My ex boyfriend
    I lost my virginity to this guy and dated him for nine months. I cheated on him at first and he found out at 4 months. In his eyes he honestly believes that I don't care about him and that all I would continue to do is cheat and lie (he has very jealous issues). By nine months this girl lied to him and told him that I was cheating again and me and him broke up because of it. We were talking for a month in the summer and began fighting really bad after a while and then one of his exes asked him out and they dated for a few months and broke up (he was trying to get over me and she was basically a rebound) when they broke up me and him started talking again but things were still kind of rocky.

    I admit we would both play games with each other especially when we were mad at each other. We have unresolved differences and every time I tell him I care he simply won't believe it cause he has it drilled into his head that I don't care and that I'm a cheater. Sometimes we argue sometimes we have nice conversations. Whenever we argue we both say mean things and try to make each other jealous.

    He admitted it seemed like were both "lost" or confused. I have a gut feeling that he checks my Facebook wall even though were not friends on Facebook. My wall isn't private and he used to do it a lot. I think he has seen some flirting on my Facebook and wouldn't tell me but he was talking bad about me the whole night he was chilling with people and my friend happened to be there. I've asked him if he's misses me and it took him a half hour to say "idk". He's been really pissed at me lately and put a relationship up on Facebook but told my friend that it was fake. He also texted me and basically rubbed it in my face that he had sex with her and his friend told me the same thing. So I decided that I wasn't going to hit him up anymore and the next day he prank called me! I answered and he said hello and I asked who it was (I knew it was him) he said I don't know whose this? I said I don't know you called me and he said I have a warrant for your arrest ma'am and told me I was being arrested for being naughty and a psycho ***** and I told him that it was a mistake and he said yeah it is and that he's on private so he's going to hang up and I said have a nice day and his name and said bye and hung up on him then I texted him and said he's weird and he didn't reply.

    In my gut I believe he's not fully moved on and that he still cares but he's bitter toward me for some of the things I have done and covers his true feelings with being an cause he don't believe that I even care. I'm really confused and I get different thoughts and views about him from my friends what do you think? I love him very much
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    Jan 2, 2012, 12:14 PM
    I think you should just sit him down the next time you see him,explain to him that you wernt cheeting and if you were you would admitt it to him especially after the break-up,if he is pretending to have sex with other girls when he's not its proberly because he wants you to be jelous and hurt like he proberly was.Tell him if he doesn't believe you or if he doesn't want back with you to tell you then and there, and assure him that it's the only offer he's ever going to get if he wants time to think give him time, and if he just laughs at you or something then hold your head high and just say "aww well your lose" and don't have any interest in him hop all goes welll
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    Jan 2, 2012, 12:30 PM
    Well both him & his friend told me he had sex with her & obviously he wanted me to be jealous by telling me that it's almost like he's completely confused and wants to see how I react and is insecure & doesn't know what to think or do anymore but he is acting like a jerk but obviously had to be thinking about me to prank call me right? Should I just wait till he try's to talk to me again?
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    Jan 2, 2012, 03:48 PM
    Leave each other alone until the games can stop, and some honesty can be had from both sides. Or else wants the point? I think he is trying to hurt you, because you hurt him.
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    Jan 2, 2012, 08:05 PM
    I think he's trying to get back at you put you in his shoes and make you feel the way he feels... although that may not be the way to go about doing things he may not know how else to handle it... I recently cheated on my fiancé he surprisingly took it very well of course I need to earn his trust back but I was reading online to see what I could do to make him feel a little bit better and I found a site saying that if you both want to make it workthen you need to sit down both of you say what neds to be said and let him ask the questions he needs to and answer them truthfully and then don't bring it up again and see where it goes from there
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    Jan 3, 2012, 04:30 PM
    Yeah that sounds good I talked to him today & we said we'd get along and when he was mean today he actually said sorry for it! & he told me he didn't have sex with that girl & that he was just joking when he said it
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    Jan 3, 2012, 06:00 PM
    I don't think either of you really know what you wants, and I don't think you are in love. Maybe infatuated, or obsessed. Move on, erase him from your life and if you want to be playing games then do so, but don't expect to have a regular, healthy relationship with someone while you are doing so.

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