Met my girlfriend 4 months ago she is older than me and has a 3 year old child and is in final stages of divorce of her ex of 10 years. She still sees the ex due to the child she still cares for him but doesn't love him anymore as he cheated on her. She has been very open with me about a lot of thing s in her life. We used to tex or talk to each other every day and see each other twice a week and she did tell me that she did not want anythink heavy as she liked being single which I was happy with and did not put that much pressure on her. She has been a bit funny lately as it coming up to 12 months since see kickd the ex out. She sent me a tex tonight to say she needs time to get her self a child sorted before she considered a full on relationship and she still wants to be friends as a have help her loads over past few months. Spoke to her on phone and she says she wants to go out with her friend and doesn't want any emotion ties as she is going through lot at mo.
Can any 1 help me is this the end or do I just give it a couple of weeks of no communication and see what happens wouldn't care but I really like her and she knows it.

I am not an expert, but I say that you should give her some time. It's hard to trust someone after being cheated on. You have to give her a while to find herself. Ten years is a long time to spend with someone. After that long you just need to find out what makes you happy. Be her friend, be supportive. In the end, if she wants a relationship, she will feel a lot more comfortable that you weren't pushing her. Plus you have to realize that there is a child involved. She won't want to do anything to hurt the child. It cou,d be stressful to see mommy with a new guy already. Give her time, if it is meant to be, it will be.

Here's the deal dude. It sounds like you smothered her. It was probably fun for her in the beginning to get all the attention from a man. But, contacting her every day was probably way too much - espciall ywha tshe was going through. I am sure it was even more than once a day.

I hope you didn't become clingy and needy? Woman despise that. Despise that. She should be calling you. You didn't need to call her evey day, especilla yso early in a relationship.

You need to get your own life. Concentrate on work, friends, family, hobbies,

Sadly you caught her on the rebound - you can still work it out, but give her time. Show YOUR stength.

With all your listening you may have become 'girlfriend' friend. You probably spilled your guts to her as well.

Woman want strong confident men.

You needed to be unavailble, not always return her calls right away, be mystteriosu.

Were you TOO agreeable? Put on pedestal? We you always looking for her approval - not doing what you want? - puuting your life aside?

Did you say 'I love'/share your feelings with her? Don't do this!! Share feelings like a the 1 year point - Woman hate when a share their feelings way too early. Hate it!

Did you give away all your 'relationship power' to her - have her make all the decisions? YOU need to make most of the decisions. You probably did what ever the woman wanted to get you to like her - THIS DOESN'T WORK.



You HAVE to giver her space - with a kid and a divorce she needs A LOT more space than a single woman. Give her 3 weeks of NO communication. No communication. She may contact you to see what's up.

These aren't games or rules, but facts of life.

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After last posting she called me the next day we had a chat and then it was like before b/f g/f then at of march it happened again. I told that we should cut all contact as if I saw her with some 1 else I could not cope with it but told her I would not give up on her. Then things were OK until end of April on way bak from wkend trip she turned everythink I had said to her when I met her around. Like I she wasn't really my type (which I said was really a joke ) & I wasn't her type either and we should cut all contact and she would erase my number from her phone. We had a good talk about things and told her not to erase my num as we had become good friends. She said we could be friends but we would never be an item. We still kept in contact but I could tell the b/f g/f aspect had gone, 2 weeks ago all contact had stopped so sent her a small tex to she how she was she replyed 3 days later I didn't reply, she then called me the next day and asked why I didn't reply, during the conversation the bomb which I had a small hint about dropped and she has met a new bloke 2 weeks ago( ididnt ask her) I played it cool. She ask if I had which I said not really (she didn't believe me) she asked about other things made her laugh and had a Disagreement about things. I know she has come out of a long relationship and she prob wants to spread her wings a bit and have fun. She had met other people before me but I was first serious relationship since the ex. We both said it feels longer than 5 months since we have known each other. SHE HAS PUT A SPELL ON ME (never know what you miss till its gone) Do I hang on there and show her it was not really A relationship 4 sex could all of this be a game to see if I really do have a friendship to build on with her. ADVISE Please

I think you kept putting pressure on her. Your mistakes were you kept contacting.

Why on earth would she care though that you did not return her text?

Also - you can't keep picking up the phone every time she calls. Never.

Screw the friendship thing. She keeps playing you like a instrament. You need to give it back to her. These are all test and you failed them.

You keep leaving the ball in her court and that's terrible. QUIT saying you care. You need to act indiffernet. You were too available to this woman. Do you understand about being too available?

Do you still want a relationship with this gal after the way she has treated you?

You need to give her space. No calls - period. If you want a further relationship - go on with your life - she may come back. But right now you are acting like a whimp/wuss.

A woman can never be your life - just a part of it. It seems you placed this woman up on a pedestal - no woman wants that.

Learn about relationships. YOU should be the Prize - not her. Not her.

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Bob-give her space and be a FRIEND!! If she finds you attractive she will come to you. Rebound romance is a tough act to solidify. Go slow and let her decide if the relationship can work. It may be hard to slow things down a bit, but it seems like what she wants. Always respect your friends feelings in ANY relationship. If it is meant to be it will happen. Good Luck!!