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    jamjarInk Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 25, 2013, 03:09 AM
    Dumped out of the blue as he is confused?
    Heya, my boyfriend of nearly two years dumped me out of the blue saying I was too good for him and he was really confused. He didn't know if he wanted to be with me or not so is going to try single life for a bit, He did agree to meet up with me once where he appeared to find being near me very difficult. I would make him laugh and then he would cry (this is not him, he doesn't cry). He did admit he had been talking to his ex and there was un finished business there, but he didn't know whether they were going to get together or not. They just want to resolve their unfinished business.

    He now won't talk to me, and I'm not trying to talk to him, as do not want to come across as one of those hanger oners but am desperate to know what's going on. His friends have contacted me saying they want to stay friends and they are not getting involved in the break up and just leaving him to it. What does all this mean, and will he ever let me back into his life again? Strangely I don't really miss being his girlfriend, but still miss him, and the social side of being with him.
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    Apr 25, 2013, 04:20 AM
    If you don't miss being his girlfriend then there is much more to this story. You can't be overly shocked that he left the relationship.

    Regardless, he has made a decision and you need to give him space. Giving him space will be the best thing for you as well. Keep yourself busy, call some girlfriends and go out, do things to keep your mind active.
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    Apr 25, 2013, 06:43 AM
    I don't see the point in trying to understand why he did what he did, and that is, he dumped you. Whatever his reasons are, it sounds like he's struggling with decisions that have have nothing to do with you.

    In my opinion, a friendship isn't likely considering how he has responded to you, and what he is dealing with the issues involving his ex.

    So if a relationship is no longer possible, and a friendship is not likely possible either, why are you hanging on.
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    Apr 25, 2013, 07:38 AM
    Leave him alone to resolve his unfinished business and go back to life before him. You will adjust to this breakup in time, and carry on with doing your own thing without him. Don't take him back. He needs all the time and pace he can get, and so do you, to clear the confusion.

    You sound like a rebound, so don't go there again.
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