I don't even know where to start, well the beginning is usually the best place so here goes.

I met this guy about a month ago, I was messing about with my mates, just driving around. We stopped in the local park car park. There was a guy sitting quite close by alone in his car so my friends decided it would be funny to dare me to chat with him (cringe) It was all a joke so I pulled my car up along side his and started chatting. He explained he was sitting here because he was on call and if he stayed in the house he would fall asleep so he went for a drive. At first it was a bit akward chatting espcially with my friends laughing from a distance and texting me silly things lol.

He seemed like a really sweet guy he was 31 but still lived with his parents. No real reason apart it being an easier life lol. Im sort of in the same situation but well I'm 22 but prob should be thinking of moving out but am dreding it. Hes a head social worker for the council and considering a move to a different company but the same position. My friends texted me letting me know they wer going to find a toilet asking if I wanted to go but I really didn't I was enjoying chatting with him so they went off and we continued to chat. Next thing it was nearly 3 in the morning, we had been talking ALL night. My friends wer just coming in and out of the car park every now and again having fun by themselves. It was raining that night so he kept suggesting I went into his car so I wouldn't get wet and cold but I didn't. Then he suggested I got into his car and we drove away to see if my friends followed it was just a wind up so I said yes but I was a bit nervous so I texted my friends telling them to follow us. We drove a couple of car parks up after a few minutes my friends came in. (thank goodness) we wer laughjing about it and my friends left. He droveover to the corner of the car park wer we just sat and talked and talked. Then he was like well we best head back or we can stay he if you prefer. I knew what that question meant so I asked him to take me back. He was like yeah sure no problem. When we got back it was nearly 5 in the morning so I really had to get home. We swapped numbers and had a quick kiss.

All the way home I couldn't get him out my head. All the next day was the same. He texted me later the next night wanting to meet. So we did and chatted all night again. Kissed for a while every now and then through out the night. I was great I was so relaxed in his company. We met up every night for the next week gradually we went a stage further but never as far as sex. He did ask but I said no and he was fine with it a complete gentleman. I texted him the next day askingfor an honest answer about if we wer just gony be a sex thing he said "honestly a bit of fun at the moment, got some things in common, we have a laugh but nothing serious. dont know if thats the answer you want but its honest" I liked that answer was what I want too.

He went on holiday for 2 weeks we wer texting all the time and I actually missed him it was weird. Every time my friends asked me about him I couldn't wipe the grin off my face. Hes now back and I've met him a few times but he's hurt his leg on holiday so can't really drive.

Here's my problem. He went on holiday with his sister, her husband and her 2 kids. He talks about the kids a lot espically the older one (age 10) because he helps run a kids football team and he plays in it. When he was talking about his holiday he mentioned the kids a lot, a few bits about the sister but nothing, not even a name about her husband. He has spoke about christmas parties etc and still he talks about his sister the kids his neighbours his parents but never her husband. We always meet up at night as well. Fair enough he's working through the day but it all just seems a bit weird. Im beginning to think he's married with kids but I don't want ask him well not right now anyway more because I really like him and don't want to be right.

Anybody got any ideas or been in a similar situation? Please help I'm so confused x

You met up with him every night for a week and you think he maybe married.

Why not just be direct and ask him?

I wouldn't be jumping to conclusions that he's married. I was the same way with my nieces, I talked about them a lot. Bring it up casually in conversation

Don't be confused, get the facts. Ask him directly as you have a right to know as much about him and his life as you can.

How else can you make an informed decision without facts? Until you get those facts, protect your own heart.

Thanks for all your answers. I think I may have jumped in a bit there. We wer chatting the other night and he apologised for being a bit distant since he came back from holiday but it was down to him wanting to quit his job. He did quit, then he was talking about going travelling since he has no ties etc etc. I feel so stupid for even thinking it but I suppose I just couldn't get my head round there being nothing wrong with him lol. Oh and he's not going travelling anymore he's going back to university x

Ask before you get too attatched and it becomes more painful. Or play it out, and let the consequences come as they may.

There are many ways to do each, but that is up to you alone.

May peace and kindness be with you.