OK so me and my boyfriend decided to split for awhile that was 3 months ago and he's with someone else right now. I finally got myself out and doing things and about a month and a half ago I asked him if there was any chance of him coming back and he said no and asked why and I told him cause if not I'm thinking about moving in with this other guy and he said do what you got to but if he hurts you I will hurt him later that night he called ing at me and all upset telling me how do you think this makes me feel you going off with some other guy and I've never cared or loved anyone but you and I never will and I told him I can't sit around and wait and you won't talk with me so what else am I supposed to do the next day we sat and talked and both agreed on spending time together and see where it goes we've been doing that as well as having sex and that gets better and better each time he said he's thinking about coming back. Well today he texted me telling me he's all stressed out about a lot of stuff and he don't know what he wants anymore and I told him to meet me somewhere and we can talk cause that's how I'm feeling and he said he will c so I'm going to go to where I told him I will be at and c if he shows but I really don't know what to say or do that won't make him feel like I'm pressuring him but at the same time try and get him to see that we are meant for each other . So I need help on what I can do and also would like to know if there is a chance he's going to really come back he says he's been fighting with her as well. Please help.

Debbie, I wish you the best! As I read this post, what jumped out at me is this:

Your ex doesn't want to let you go totally and he doesn't want anyone else to be with you but he does not want to be in a committed relationship with you. The choice is yours, not his.

Take the reins and decide for yourself what you want then tell him. If you want him back and he plays the "Well, I don't know game." then just end it and move on with your life.

Life is just too short to be involved with someone who is not totally enamored with you. We all deserved to be happy. If he cannot commit to you and be there for you, I suggest you make the choice. You move on and have a wonderfully happy and fulfilled life.

Please understand, I know it hurts to let go. This is not about not having pain, it is about progress in your life for the health of your mind, body and soul. Best to you!

How old are you both?

Were both 24