Trust, trust, trust. It can only be given - it can never be demanded. If you try to control her, you will ruin the relationship. Perhaps not now, or even this year, but if this is a girl you'd like to be with for a long time you must learn to trust her and trust her judgment.
You should show good judgment by giving her the freedom that everyone needs. If she comes back to you, she's yours. If she doesn't, she never was. This is only a recipe for disaster in your mind. Change you outlook and attitude to something positive, like "I'm sure you'll have a good time at the party with your friends". Also let her know that you're interested in hearing how the evening went. Open communication is vital to a healthy relationship.
At the end of the day, it doesn't matter how drunk your girl gets, if she's loyal to you she'll stay loyal. If someone really doesn't want to cheat it doesn't matter how drunk they get, or how much opportunity they have, they simply just won't do it. Are you sure you really trust her?
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One must be fond of people and trust them if one is not to make a mess of life.
You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough.
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