My partner and I moved apart several months ago. Prior to moving out separately, we were living in different rooms in the house. We were fighting a lot - kids, house, bills, everything. I felt trapped. We weren't happy. We would make up, but would get in another argument within days.

The opportunity presented itself and we moved out. Even after we moved out, she visited me a lot of weekends in my new apt. When she visited, we were "very friendly".

She booked herself on a cruise with our friends. I didn't go because it thought it wouldn't be appropriate in our current situation. She cried and begged for me to go. We talked and I promised to be at my apt waiting when she came back. When she came back, it was like another person. She was distant, barely said two words to me. Her excuse was that she was hungover. She called me the next day, but I was hurt and angry. We got into another argument and told her I didn't even want to try and be friends.

Two months later, I texted her one afternoon when I couldn't resist anymore. She texted me back that she was seeing one of mutual friend, someone who had also gone on the cruise. I was, of course, devastated.

We talked. We cried. Eventually, we reconciled and agreed to work on our relationship. I had cause much pain when I left. She had caused much pain by being with someone else. She swore she only did it to get a reaction from me and that she broke it off as soon as she saw how devastated I was.

Since we've gotten back together, she tells me that she loves me, but that I had killed something within her. There are days when she's very loving, just the way I remember. Then, there are days when I feel like she couldn't care less. I've cried. I've opened my heart to her. She maintains that she loves me, but I had killed something within her.

So, how do I know? Does she still love me but finds it hard to let herself go because of the pain I've caused? Or am I holding onto something that's already gone?

Does she tell you what it is that she killed inside her?

Hi, linda90802!

I would like to add that, would it be possible for the two of you to get counseling together to see about sorting and working things out?

Thanks!

Whatever it takes to talk, and listen to each other, is what you do, or accept the inevitable, and get over each other.

You make a lousy couple, because of the way you handle your differences.

I have to spread the rep Tal but you re spot on.

Sounds to me like she's not as interested as you'd like her to be. When people are interested, they want to bring down the moon for you- not tell you things like 'you killed something inside of me' and not give you further info- just my thought