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Closey · Jul 8, 2007, 09:25 PM

Last week my I was having a hard time with our wedding plans and finances, this was putting a strain on our relationship, my fiancé was being very supportive all week but I was to worked up to notice. Saturday I went to buy my wedding dress and when I came home my fiancé and all of his clothes were gone. He got in contact with me during the week telling me that he did not know what to do because he is worried that this won't work. I told him that I would like to cancel our wedding since it is putting a strain on us financially & our relationship and just see how we go. He told me that he needed time to think & I received text messages from him during the week telling me he loved me. On Saturday night I received a message saying its over. I don't know now if it is really all over because of a bad week or if he just has cold feet.

nauticalstar420 · Jul 8, 2007, 09:28 PM

You said he was supportive all week but you were too busy to notice. Is it possible you were too busy to notice something else that happened in the relationship? Anything? He might have been feeling neglected since you were spending more time on wedding planning than you were on him. Lots of men resent not getting any attention. I can't figure why he would just up and leave for no reason. Something has to be missing to this story :)

Pook_Myster · Jul 8, 2007, 09:36 PM

A text message to say it's over? Are you kidding - you were going to be married and all you get is a text message? Unbelievable!

I agree with ns420 above - perhaps you have missed something else along the way whilst your attention was focused on wedding plans?

Closey · Jul 8, 2007, 10:05 PM

That's what I keep asking myself. We had an argument about going to a family dinner the night before but we resolved it. We had a rough period a few months ago but everything was going all cruisy until the week before he left. I don't understand and I'm absolutely devastated. All I keep asking myself is what I have done. Is it my fault for pushing him away last week and why couldn't he just talk to me about all of this.:(

nauticalstar420 · Jul 8, 2007, 10:07 PM

Wedding planning can be time consuming, and men don't like to help, so it usually gets put on us. You couldn't help that fact that you had to do all the planning. The thing I'm wondering is, and I don't want to scare you, but is it possible there is someone else in his life?

Pook_Myster · Jul 8, 2007, 10:12 PM

If there is nothing else that comes to mind that may explain his departure, and it is in fact that you didn't show him enough attention during the wedding plans then I would be saying to him 'GROW UP!'... he isn't a two year old that needs entertaining 24/7. If he felt neglected he should have discussed that with you instead of packing his bags - how keen is he to be married if that is all it takes for him to disappear... and this little insight may be a good thing to have seen before marrying him - what happens when things get really though - he obviously isn't good at communicating, so I would be addressing that issues before committing myself to him FOREVER!

Closey · Jul 8, 2007, 10:12 PM

If he does I'm not sure when he would have had time to see her. We are both home at night during the week and go out together with friends on the weekends. That hasn't happened as much lately since we didn't have as much money since we were trying to pay for our wedding. Im really dumb founded because he is the one who has pushed for the wedding & wanted to start having children soon.

nauticalstar420 · Jul 8, 2007, 10:14 PM

Maybe he just suddenly realized he's not ready for marriage. I've seen it happen. I don't understand why he would cut you off completely though.

Pook_Myster · Jul 8, 2007, 10:14 PM

He isn't a gemini is he? Lol... my partner is a gemini and I swear he has a split personality sometimes!

Scared gota dui · Oct 26, 2008, 02:46 PM

Speaking from a man's POV. It sounds like you came off across as giving him the cold shoulder (not saying it was on purpose of course,but that's how it was probably it was interpreted) One thing though is that breaking it off via text is down right insulting. I don't want to be the bearer of bad news, but I sadly agree with nauticalstar420 because a lot of men when they know they have done something awful,like cheat on you, we are too cowardly to own up to it. So that's why he might have text dumped you because he was too big of a coward to even talk to you on the phone.

TrueFaith · Oct 26, 2008, 03:03 PM

He leaves you

Then texts you its over.

WoW.. that is so cowardly.
I would say leave him.
Even if you was busy and maybe even giving him the cold shoulder

He should have spoken to you first.
Him Running away. Which is what he did
Means he does not want to talk about it
And is to scared to.
You offerd for things to go back to the way they were. Which I might add is very big on you part. But he says its over on a Text!

I wish you all the best. And I'm sorry you have had to go threw this.
Stay strong. And I really hope you find a better person to be with