I started working at a local nightclub just before Christmas and I knew that one of the managers there was in a relationship with a girl I knew through mutual friends at school bit had never been close with. As soon as I started working there she started sending me messages telling me to spy on him. It turned out it was a really messy relationship and she was slightly psycho!

I got really close to my manager mostly through discussing her and what he was going to do about it. I developed feelings for him pretty soon and I really like him. We would sit and talk for hours after work and eventually he ended his relationship.

The day after he hugged me and told me he would always love me I sorted his life out. I get thus was probably just a thankful friend. However throughout all that his girlfriend would ring me constantly and text me about him. It meant I did get closer to her as well. Over the next few weeks he got much more touchy with me hugging me and play fighting when a little drunk.

On new years I was his first new years kiss but just the. Cheek and after work he gave me his own glass of champagne as well as other drinks throughout the night he would jokingly put 2 fingers whenever he saw me and I would do the same an at the end of the night when we were cleaning and he was drinking with the other managers he sis it again an I gave hum evil and ignored him to which he then apologized and mimed he loved me ( cheesy I know) .

Since then nothing major happened but I catch him staring at me quite a lot and he would mess around near me and he sent me texts with things like (yeah but only for you) and ( my pretty). I couldn't help getting sucked in although unfortunately was also getting closer to his ex who then accused me of liking him asking questions like do you think he's hot? And when I told him he wanted to know my response but I had just completely ignored her questions. I spoke to the mutual friends of me and his ex who are really close with her but getting majorly pissed off with her psycho ness. They said he had told his ex when I first started he thought I was pretty which explained her behavior toward me.

However one day he completely changed around me. He was short and weird and I felt like I'd done something wrong. At school the next day his ex said how they had attended a meal for valentines day to sort things out. I felt **** but it explained his behavior. The week after I just ignored him until he asked if I'd spoken to her so I asked him about the meal and he said it was her idea and he didn't want to go or get back with her. The week after that he was completely back to normal with me. I'd catch him staring at me or if we passed each other he would sing to what ever was playing to me.

Also I had been to a ball before work and was pretty drunk but he stuck up for me to the big bosses when they asked and he was just really flirty and nice again! However whilst working I was texting his ex about the ball I had been to and she was asking about my dress and stuff. When I picked my phone up at one point a new message was open and someone had obviously looked! However everyone denied it and I forgot until the end of the night when he said "so you've been texting my ex" he seemed pretty pissed and said how I was a traitor but mainly in a jokey way but I do think there was something behind it.

Last weekend he complemented my hair which he has never done and during a staff meeting this week he seemed to be looking at me quite a bit and when our boss was talking about drunkenness he smirked at me and then he aimed a dig right at me about something else but again in light hearted ness. He even started talking to a randomer on the bus the other day thinking it was me!

My intuition tells me he likes me but I get confused also there's the situation with the ex who I seem to be getting closer too and don't want to hurt but I really like him! I'm 18 and he's 21 by the way. What do I do??

Yikes---I hate to see relationships in place of business and especially with a superior. No offense, but most places of employment do not allow this type of behavior due the excess drama it causes at work, including sexual harassment cases brought up against their personnel in a supervisor role!

For whateve reason you were put in the middle of this senario. I would have removed myself from the get go. This is their mess, not yours. But I will say this, that even though you think his ex-girlfriend is psycho, have you really heard her side of the story without have rose glasses on. Meaning already being attracked to her boyfriend. It takes two to make a relationship and two to screw it up!!

If you do get involved with this man, all I can say is WATCH YOUR BACK!! Do you think his ex-girlfriend is going to take this laying down--doubt it.

But, most importantly do you really want to be his rebound chick? He didn't even seem very choked up about his break up with the last girl. Oh, and was the ex also a person who worked for him or the same company? If so seems to be a pattern for him!

You are going to do what you want, but be very careful on what you decide to do!! You could also be ruining your reputation at work.

Take care

Yeah I completely get what your saying! No she has never worked with him and I have heard her side of the story an so have the mutual friends who don't even know him and they even were driven crazy with her pshyconess! She does go to counselling...

Also I think he wasn't so cut up as it had been going on fir a long time and he had already got to breaking point but felt like he couldn't do any thing about it

I know your attracted, but with her just outside the circle I would be very cautious. She is already watching every step your making, what do you think she would do if found out you were actually having a relationship with him. It only takes a thought of personal justice to go from wanting to get back at someone to wanting to eliminate someone!!

I think you don't make a very good friend to either one of them.

What kind of friend are you to him, collecting information to share with his (now) ex, behind his back. And what kind of friend are you to gather information on her, whilst having conversations with him!

You say you don't want to hurt her, but, you really like him. That is a good excuse to work both ends against the middle, and be loyal to no one?

I would hope that if I were her, somebody would tell me what you are up to, and if I were him, I'd be quickly severing this little pipline you've got going with his ex. And by the way, I don't see where her behaivour is psycho, but clearly you've done a lot of talking about her behind her back.

Both of them, should drop you in my opinion.

This can go nowhere but toward disaster for all concerned.

No he doesn't fancy you. You are an work associate and he keeps you charmed and the other girl charmed because he can. You both are young an impressionable and easy to manipulate, and he knows how.

Do you really need this high school drama at work??