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    confused1145 Posts: 176, Reputation: 17
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    May 26, 2008, 09:00 PM
    Did I mess things up again?
    My guy decided that he needed some time to think and that things were moving too fast. Then I find out that I'm pregnant, but things still didn't change. His last relationship ended horrible. I continued to push him to give us a chance, but he kept saying that he needed some time. I recently told him that I wasn't going to pursue things any longer. I think that scared him so he asked if I would consider giving him the chance when he was ready and I said the door would be open. He went on to tell me how his ex wanted to work things out with him so I told him that I changed my mind because I don't want to get hurt an take a chance of him going back to her. I think he was ready to be with me until I said this. Now he acts like he's really hurt. Was I right by doing this? What should I do from here? I really want to be with him but don't want to get hurt.
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    magicofmakingup Posts: 20, Reputation: 3
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    May 26, 2008, 10:01 PM
    Sorry to say that but he doesn't know what he wants, so you have to ask a decision.

    There are only three options

    Getting back
    Time out without any other fix relation
    A new relation (if ex or not)

    If he ask a time out, make it clear under what condition you accept a time out.

    Other point. You are pregnant. He has to assume his responsibilities anyhow and can't run, perhaps that's what he's trying to do.

    For me it looks like he is not very "relationship" minded and throw the towel when some problems come up.

    Would help to know your age, how long time you are together, if you already have kids with him etc.

    G.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    May 27, 2008, 07:00 AM
    You did the right thing by setting him free to make his own choice, without pressure from you, now back it up by leaving him alone. Its not fair for you to put a hold on your life, while he clears the fog between his ears. Feel free to enjoy yourself and your life without him.
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    chuff Posts: 3,397, Reputation: 1235
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    May 27, 2008, 12:47 PM
    You are pregnant. You have other things to worry about then some guy who has two women chasing him. Time to grow up and start making good decisions for you and the child not what's best for him.
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