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    oleander Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 2, 2008, 12:49 AM
    Is my decision right?
    My parents are against my relationship and have threatened to severe ties if I go ahead.
    She says that she knows it for a fact that we won't make it together for a happy life. Although I love him a lot and trust him fully somewhere inside my mother's remark pinches me. Can you tell me if we will make it together? His DOB 01/01/1983 and my DOB 01/23/1983.

    I am the only child and I wish to see them happy in future when they see me happy with him, I hope I take the right decision in honoring my commitment to him.
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    Feb 2, 2008, 11:26 AM
    Normally, I do not respond to questions such as this, however, you are in a Psychic forum, therefore, intuitively speaking, I sense your need to be with the one you are with. It should not be beyond your parents to try to understand your feelings towards the man you are with and whom you love. Especially, if he loves you too. After all, I doubt they would have listened to anyone else when they were dating and wanted to later tie the knot and someone would have tried to discourage them. Love comes from theheart and is to be experienced in a very PERSONAL way by every individual.

    The person you love your parents may not love but it is not expected for them to. But you do. Therefore, you must look at your own happiness. Perhaps in time they will change their opinion after they see the attributes your man has. Perhaps they won't. But in any case, since you are an adult it should be your own strict decision as to who can make you the happiest. It will not mean you love your parents any less because you decide to stay with your man. Parents who truly love their children should understand this and let love predominate above their own insecurities. On the other hand, if they know something about this person that would affect you negatively in the long-run, they should be upfront with you about it to give you an opportunity to inquire further but not just say they do not like him without giving proper reason as to why.

    The ultimate decision, in my opinion, should be yours as you are not a child. There are so many parents who do not like the partner their child has chosen. But they must remember that it is not they who are going to have to live with that person, but their child. And happiness is something every parent should certainly want for their child. No one deserves to live life alone and especially when they get into their elder years. If parents are not cognizant of that fact, coupled with you being an only child, then they need to search introspectively and examine why they would want you to be alone in life without happiness, a good future, Love and perhaps even children. May God help you in reaching a decision that has to be a very Personal One for you.

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    [/B] God's Word is indeed *infallible*. It's man's mis-interpretation and re-interpretation of it that I am concerned about.
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    Feb 2, 2008, 09:09 PM
    You may go about achieving things in completely different ways, but you can still agree on what is important in the long run! If you can respect his need for tradition and he can be open to your ideas for change, the two of you can make a very good team.

    Capricorn thrives on outward and concrete expressions of affection, while Aquarius may seem detached and emotionally unavailable at times. Possessiveness is a natural instinct for you, but Aquarius is a fiercely independent and unpredictable soul. Furthermore, you have an affinity for all things traditional and familial, while Aquarius is inclined to do away with conventions and outdated practices. It is important to communicate long term goals and dreams to be sure you want the same things in life.

    Parents usually come around in time especially if they see you did make a good choice and they warm up to him.
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    Feb 3, 2008, 03:44 AM
    Any decision you make after careful consideration of all the facts is the right decision for you at the time. You have no control over changing circumstances.
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    Feb 5, 2008, 04:31 PM
    Compatibility of Anonymous with Anonymous

    Just for fun I used this site and put in the birth dates. You and your friend have a very high compatibility level. Check it out for yourself!
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    Feb 10, 2008, 11:43 AM
    Follow Your Heart, If The Choice You Made Brings You Peace, It Is The Right Choice. If It Brings You, Fear, It Will Only Bring More Fear. What Do You Want? Peace! Or Fear?
    In Light Love And Peace
    Robert
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    Feb 11, 2008, 05:49 AM
    Without knowing your cultural values, and traditions, I think you are at the point of you must make a decision for yourself, that will affect your whole life. So for now just questions, How long has this commitment been in place? Where are you from?
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    Feb 11, 2008, 07:54 AM
    I was in a relationship very similar to yours. He and I were "soul mates" but my family was dead set against it. My Mother also gave that "I'll disown you if you marry him" ultimatum and I seriously considered it.

    Bottom line for me was: I loved that man, I could see myself loving him forever, and I anticipated much happiness with him. But, I also knew that if I went ahead with the relationship and married him, my Mother would not have any part of it, nor would she ever have any part of our lives. My decision would not only affect me, but also any children that he and I would have.

    You need to decide if this man is worth losing your family. He may be. For me, it couldn't happen. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do and I literally cried for weeks, but now, looking back on it, I know that I made the right decision for me.

    Make this decision for you. Weigh the consequences - the pros and cons, if you will - and then make your decision.

    Good luck, hon. From someone that knows, good luck! :)
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    Feb 13, 2008, 06:30 AM
    Unless you have gone through school, and have had the education to give you a marketable skill, or a career, then I would hope you waited until you do before you get married. If your love is true then it will be there when this is done. This I think will not only give you a chance to be a solid independent person, but may go along way in reducing some of your parents concern for you. What they do is from love, and care, so understand their concerns, but do for yourself. There is no hurry to jump into a marriage at your age, but plenty of time to cultivate both the relationship, and yourself, in preparation for the future. Your future. Much luck, whatever path you take.

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