Okay, here's the deal. This guy and I have been together for over 3 years. He's such an amazing guy. He is everything I would want in a man. Everything was going great and we were always on the same page. We had plans to get engaged and the whole deal.

We're both 21 and he's a med-student. Of course, medical school is no walk in the park. He's always at the library studying and overwhelmed with exams. So a few months ago he told me, and this was totally out of the blue, that he needed to be alone right now. He was just feeling the pressure of his studies. And he can't promise me anything right now cause he doesn't know when he's going to be financially ready to settle down. He still has more than 2 years to become a general practitioner. And then wants to do his residency abroad.

I know that his studies have taken a toll on him, and take almost all of his time and energy. I expressed to him that I didn't care how long it would take for him to be ready for an official commitment, and that I would wait with patience. He responded that he didn't want me to wait and that it wouldn't be fair to me. He assured me that his feeling were not a matter of concern and his circumstances were the reason for his decision. The last thing I would ever do is add more pressure to his life. He told me that I'd given him the best 3 years of his life, and that he'd like to stay in touch with me if that was okay with me.

This was a few months ago. Since then, we have remained in contact every now and then. When I talk to him it feels really natural. I feel ME. Something just clicks when we're together. He always says that he's here for me if I need anything. He's such a sweet, amazing, fine young man.

I'm not really adjusting well with the whole situation. I understand that he needs his time alone right now. And that's fine. But what bothers me that he didn't want me to wait for him.

I was very much in love with him and still am. I thought as time passes I'd be better and get over my feelings but I'm not. I'm not sure whether to remain in touch with him or not. I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful for the best as I believe "everything happens for a reason". But again I'm still confused about why this happened and about what to do next.

That not fair in my opinion, for him to dump you, and tell you don't wait for him, and still stay in touch so "as friends", and not allow you to heal. It's the contact that gives yo false hope of him changing his mind, while the feelings you have (and maybe he does too) stay stirred up and strong.

You must let go for the good of you both, and leave each other alone completely. Its very obvious he cannot, and you won't, but its up to you to stop the contact because you are the one that got dumped.

Do so for your own good, as we all have had to do for our own good when we got dumped, as you have, out of the blue, unexpectedly. Only then will your feelings stop flapping helplessly in the wind, and we can get our sanity back. Its especially important for YOU, because you have a future without him, and you have never been without him in your entire adult life.

First you must leave the past, in the past, and live for today. I already know how hard it is, and that break ups suck! You still have to move on.

Sorry for your loss.

It needs to be a either or, now he is OK with you when he happens to have time. Yes it is hard but married students do this, other students have a social life and do this. Sorry I am assuming he is having a social life also, just without you.

I would basically just stop any contact with him and start moving on.

Sounds like he doesn't believe the relationship can survive his busy lifestyle OR he's trying to do the right thing by you and doesn't want you waiting round for him OR he doesn't feel strongly enough towards you to ask you to do that. I know it hurts but he's put hinself in the situation he wants for one reason or another. Other people in his position manage relationshios at the same time. Seems like he's a little half hearted to be honest. Cut contact for a while at least and see what he does-if anything- if he doesn't come after you and tell you how much he misses you and wants to try again-its time to move on honey.x

He done his best in a guys way to let you down easy, without really having to say:

Hit the bricks.

If I were you. I would disappear. No FB, or anything else.

Guys like girls tagging along. In case. You know what I mean.

Don't be that girl.