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    amberdemars Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 22, 2009, 11:51 PM
    Controlling boyfriend
    How do you deal with a boyfriend who is not only controlling but insecure?? :confused:
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    Jun 23, 2009, 12:17 AM
    How is he controlingand how do you know that he is insicure?
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    Jun 23, 2009, 12:58 AM

    Well Firstly, How much do you like him and ask yourself 'is this relationship really worth it'. I don't know about you, but I can't handle controlling boyfriends. Hope I helped

    --Elle :)
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    Jun 23, 2009, 01:17 AM

    Tell him he needs to change or you are done! And mean it!
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    Jun 23, 2009, 01:26 AM

    Regarding his insecurity ,try to make him feel better about himself.
    If he is the man who brings home the bacon,make sure he knows you appreciate that.
    Men want and need to feel they are appreciated.
    Its what they do,they take care of family in so many ways.They want some pats on the back.
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    Jun 23, 2009, 01:48 AM
    Set boundaries.
    Don't allow yourself to be bullied.
    Don't build your life around him.
    Don't argue with him - just state your case and leave it at that.
    Let him know that you love him, but that you love yourself more.

    Remember, he's only controlling if you allow it.
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    Jun 23, 2009, 01:59 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Gemini54 View Post
    Set boundaries.
    Don't allow yourself to be bullied.
    Don't build your life around him.
    Don't argue with him - just state your case and leave it at that.
    Let him know that you love him, but that you love yourself more.

    Remember, he's only controlling if you allow it.
    Can't rep,that darn limit:)
    You said it all ,very short and sweet and real :)
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    Jun 23, 2009, 05:28 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bananaBean View Post
    ...how do you know that he is insicure?
    Uh, 'cause he's controlling.

    You deal with it by not tolerating it. And if that doesn't work, leave.
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