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baybeeG · Oct 21, 2008, 05:45 AM

I was with this lad for 3 years
We broke up a couple of months ago
He had his good points and his bad
Since then I started seeing someone else for about a month
He was really nice but only seen him occasionally and I didn't see it going anywhere especially as there was an age gap I am 18 and he was 25 so I said 2 leave it

Its been about 2 weeks and both my ex of 3 years who is 18
And the lad I was seeing that was 25 have both been in contact with me
We left things on a friendly basis so I'm OK with both of them but they both seem intrested in having more with me but I'm confused as what 2 do I feel hurt and torn between them both I don't no what 2 do because since they both got in contact I can't get them out of my head I try to keep busyand have resisted contact but its hard because all my friends meet up with there boyfriends on a regular basis so when I go wit them I feel lyk a 3rd wheel and I have met other lads but I don't feel attracted to them

talaniman · Oct 21, 2008, 06:36 AM

You are single, and free to date, and have a good time, as long as your honest with them about your own feelings, and intentions. You don't need a relationship to date and have fun. Just be true to yourself.

Maybe its time to leave them both alone, and start fresh, but you make it sound like you need someone, to be happy. Am I wrong?

Date casually until your sure of how you really feel, just let them know that's what you want.

JBeaucaire · Oct 21, 2008, 06:37 AM

It's not confusion you're feeling, it's withdrawal. It's hard on the nerves to be alone after NOT being alone for so long. It takes some getting used to again. Like any other drug, until you DO get used to it, you might be so edgy in the meantime you start considering doing things not good for you... like getting back with b/fs you know aren't good life-matches for you... or overthinking the process of dating new people.

Now that you're back on the market, you will have to do the work. It takes time, patience, perseverance. Don't overthink the first two months of dating any guy. Just have fun. If you're still dating a guy after that much time, THEN start paying attention to the fine details and determining if he might make a good match candidate.