Ok... so my boyfriend and I of three years just split up. Well we kind of split up. Three weeks ago we had a stupid fight and he ended up telling me he didn't have the same feelings for me that he used to have. He said he just feels lost right now. I know he needs his space, so I've been giving it to him. For three weeks he's been telling me we need a break, blah, blah, blah. So I give him his break and then he calls me three days later every time wanting to hang out. He says he still misses me, but he's not sure if he still misses us. I know I depended on him way too much during our relationship, and he tried and tried to get me to stop. I didn't have a car so I would borrow his. I've been putting off school for quite some time now, and I really don't make much money where I work. The day we decided to take a break, I bought a car, and I registered for classes next semester. I want things to work out so bad between us. It sucks because we have the same friends and it's hard for me to talk to them about it. I just feel like not only am I losing him, but them as well. I've been doing really well not calling or texting him, but I broke down this weekend. I texted him a couple times, but he was really short with me. Then I asked him when do I get to see you again (this was Saturay), and he said trying for Monday. What does that mean? I know he's definetely depressed right now. He hates his job and he's about to be 31. Do you think maybe he's going through a mid-life crisis or something? He says he doesn't know if he wants to stay together, but we haven't actually broken up. I trust him with all of my heart and he's the most honest person I've ever met in my life so I know he's not cheating on me. I keep asking him why? Where did this come from? We just went on vacation together this summer. I honestly think he's just scared to commit. All of our friends are starting to get married and we've been together longer than any of them. From day one of our relationship he told me he was totally against marriage. Throughout our relationship he would mention us getting married and how he never thought about it before until he met me. I love him so much and I want to do the right thing. I don't want to lose him. What should I do?? HELP!

Seems to me like you are doing the right thing by enrolling in school and getting YOUR life together. Kudos to you! As far as he is concerned, I would just back off as much as possible and let him get his life in order. Seems like there are a lot of details weighing heavily on his mind right now and he needs to get that sorted out. If it's meant to be, it is meant to be, but I would for sure just give him as much space as possible and continue to focus on yourself right now. Good for you getting a car and getting back into school!

Mid life crisis at 31?? Doubt that seriously. Whatever his problem, you seem to have your path well in control, and I hope you stay on it.

Leave him to solve his issues himself, and just back off for now. Maybe he just can't keep up with you, so let him think about it, as you progress without him.