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    devilicious24 Posts: 9, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 4, 2013, 04:10 PM
    Confused... About love?
    I'm not sure.. Where to begin... This all started in June... I worked in the airline industry and a lot of females to deal with. One definitely caught my attention.. I must say I fell head over heels . She was an intern from France... Her British and french background had me going wild.

    I am also a girl. So I didn't know what to expect if she would like me back or not. I asked her if she's ever been with a female and her response was yes her best friend.. one night we went out.. After a few drinks in the system... boom we were making out intensely!. The next thing I knew she invited me over to her apartment.. And one thing led to the other..

    The next day at work became very awkward. She was shy and wanted to tell it's a one time deal. Two days we went out for dinner and this is when she told me its not going to happen again.. But after a few drinks.. She invited me back to the apartment and we fell into each others arms. Her roommates were beginning to find out and they also worked with us so it quickly became an instant gossip at work. One of them really begun to dislike me and the feeling became mutual.

    After a few weeks of random sex we decided to try out a relationship... Cause we beginning to develop feelings and it was getting stronger each passing day. As Christmas approaches I asked my sister as she was heading to the mall to pick up something for my girlfriend.. She got a coach wallet..

    And two days later my sis died in a hit and run accident.. My girl was very supportive and was there for me at all times. Though her contract ends in February.. Actually tomorrow she leaves to France. Our love grew distant because her roommate.. Her roommate whose a total to her and makes her cry a lot... Who hates me...

    Am so in love with eith my girl but she's preference her roommate more lately than me. At this difficult moment I need Jer more than ever... Maybe she's afraid.. But I'm not sure cause every time we talk about it.. It doesn't seem that way. Tomorrow as she leaves back to France she'll spend it all day with her roommate and then head to airport which I wasn't included in any of her plans...

    I'm just confuse? I would have thought it would be me the person she would rather spend her last day with. I'm not sure what to think or say or do anymore. I'm already in pain for losing my sis.. Please need some advice in how to deal with this situation.
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    Feb 4, 2013, 05:51 PM
    Sounds like she has a relationship with the roommate, not you. If I loved someone, and I was leaving, I would want to spend every last minute with that person. The fact that she's not spending her last minutes with you, tells you a lot, or it should.

    I think she doesn't want this relationship, never did, she just doesn't know how to tell you, or has given up trying to tell you because you don't take no for an answer, and that's according to your post:

    After a few drinks in the system... boom we were making out intensely!
    She was shy and wanted to tell it's a one time deal.
    Two days we went out for dinner and this is when she told me its not going to happen again.
    She was really making it clear that she didn't want a relationship, but she accepted one because you wouldn't back down. Now she doesn't have to deal with the pressure anymore, because she's leaving. Instead of trying to break it off, or trying to make you understand, which she tried before and it didn't work, she's making it very clear that she's no longer interested, by cutting you out of the last day she's able to spend with you.

    It's very clear, you just have to open your eyes to it all.

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