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    Lucky098 Posts: 2,594, Reputation: 543
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    Aug 12, 2017, 08:11 PM
    You're right. I'm just going to cut my losses... Whatever... so frustrating.. but I'm talking with a new guy now :D He seems pretty interesting so far.

    Just sad that I couldn't even make a friend out of it.. I hate cold shoulders and wishy-washy BS.. My ex did it to me often. Maybe I'm so use to it that I just don't know how t respond anymore. I swear I have PTSD when it comes to relationships and guys..
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    Aug 14, 2017, 03:53 AM
    Hang in there. As you gain experience you will enjoy meeting more people, and be able to separate the healthier ones from the others. As your healing progresses you will be in a healthier place yourself. Just be patient with yourself, and don't beat yourself up over failures to connect, or communicate.

    The whole point of dating is to have fun getting to know each other. Never forget that as you build a life that you enjoy with family, friends, and good healthy adult activities. Groups, clubs, and classes to advance your mind, body, and soul, are great places to get a healthy outlook, attitude, and perspective on your life.

    A busy life doesn't allow for an idle mind and gives you the opportunity to be better than you were when you were the willing slave of your own dependent feelings, so be grateful for your present freedom to grow and heal, and realize your own potential. Respect what you have been through and the lessons learned, and I have no doubt you will make better choices for yourself.

    Yes, your fellow humans are frustrating in their flaws, and misery sometimes, but that has NOTHING to do with you at all, so why take it personally? Just remove yourself from it, and NEVER feel sorry for yourself. As far as relationships with guys go, let it happen naturally, and you won't get caught up in BS with BS people no matter how cute they look, or well they talk, or how much lust and yearning you have. That stuff makes them seem great on paper but if you wait and pay attention the lust will fade, and you can see the truth, like with this last flawed fellow.

    You should be very grateful you didn't waste a lot of time on him, so why the frustration? You are still free to explore and experiment in your world, and all your options are wide open. Get busy and good luck, and thanks for sharing.
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    Aug 15, 2017, 05:47 PM
    Thanks for all your wonderful and encouraging words :) and listening to me ramble on about some guy lol Hopefully I won't be back too often

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